I know every one in the end has to do the cleaning, washing, cooking bit in their lives but women who are stay at home house wives and do this as a daily routine…:-
Do you think its all worth it?
Do you feel you are busy enough and its a routine?
Do you feel your educated of Under-grad, Grad, post-grad what ever went to waste?
Do you feel that cleaning, washing, cooking, laundry etc. is basically a life, a routine?
Do you think this routine is life or there could be more to it and women who work have a life of their own other than just serving the family?
Yes it's all worth it.2. Too busy sometimes.3. Not at all. You don't get educated just for a job but for a enhancing your outlook towards life, being more equipped to being a better caregiver...etc.4. It can get boring but it's but its got to be done so why sweat it.5. Depending on your circumstances, needs, you could incorporate other things in your life. Satisfaction is a state of mind. What could be fulfilling to me may not be fulfilling for someone else.
I’m not a housewife but I sure am enjoying my maternity leave - and loving it to the max!!
Before this I was working full-time, waking up at 5am daily, spending 4 hours daily travelling on tubes/ trains and I’d end up coming home late in the evenings shattered - I was even working on sundays! But when you have a morgage to pay etc then this has to be done and I used to envy housewives! :-p Hubby never had a prob’ b/c his work routine is tougher than anyone I know around me.
Now that I am on my mat-leave I haven’t had this much of my *own-time *in years and I feel the most relaxed I have ever felt in my life. Lol. Compared to my old routine I don’t feel busy enough - but I don’t mind that! I love being able to spend so much time with my baby and this is his time so I personally feel that I owe it to him not to go back to work until I finish motherfeeding him/ or he is school-going as I brought him into this world at my own choice and I want to give him my full-attention. Hubby’s really supportive Alhamdolilah at my decision not to return to work until little one starts reception. I take my baby to so many classes eg swimming, monkey music classes, baby massage classes - its just a fun bonding experience to have with your baby.
Yes of course cleaning, washing, cooking, laudry is a routine - it has to be done! No Inshallah my education won’t go to a waste. I’d love to continue my work on the side as it is really enjoyable and rewarding but I’d do it as a freelancer eg during little one’s school hours. I’m also using my mat-leave to do further studies at the moment as you can never stop educating yourself - there’s too much out there to learn.
But I’m so thankful to Allah Talah swt that he has given me this chance to stay at home with my baby otherwise there are too many woman out there who don’t have a choice but to return to work to pay morgages, bills etc. I know someone who has to do this soon and she is having sleepless nights b/c she has to leave her baby with a nanny and return to work full-time.
For the most part yes. Before when I didn't have my baby I wasn't as busy.
Same as Niksik. I don't believe you get educated just to find a job. Education makes you wiser. You can clearly see the difference between a stay at home wife who is educated vs one that's not. How they deal with day to day task. I also help my husband with his work. I don't think I am "wasting" my education.
Yes its routine and yes it can get boring but it needs to be done.
I don't think women who work are any better then women who stay at home or the other way. A lot of time we choose to stay at home. If I want to do something on the side (volunteer or something) that'll probably make me more happy but I would still like to focus more on my baby at this stage. We are enjoying life and I know these precious moments won't come back.
I was at the mall today and talking to this random lady :D... she mentioned how she has worked all her life. Almost like a rat race. She wanted to provide everything to the kids. She never enjoyed her kids' bachpan and they grew up so fast. She said she missed that period of their life and now they are grown ups and don't even live with her. She is retired and has no one. She was looking at my baby and told me... never do that. In the end its all upto what's important to you. Sometimes you don't have a choice, you have to work. Sometimes you work because you find happiness in that. Its all good!
I know someone who has to do this soon and she is having sleepless nights b/c she has to leave her baby with a nanny and return to work full-time.