SO. I have some questions. Yup its been some years since I was a college kid so I may be a dinosaur to college kids of today so here I am, asking for advice from current-day college kids. I have one living with me and am quite alarmed at what I see.
…pride in cheating on exams, homeworks, labs.
…pride in “sharing” girlfriends", gossiping behind the girls backs. I mean, share a tender kiss with a guy and think it might actually be a PRIVATE experience? Think again!
…mooching competitions to see who can get how much “over” on others…can I get someone to buy me lunch today? Drive me somewhere? Do my homework? If yes to any of these, then I “da MAN!!!”
…no health insurance (spent the hundred bucks on lunch for friends cause sheesh, daddy will take care of me if I need a hospital) so I dont need that stoopid insurance plan)
I could go on and on here…but graciousME. I wanted to go to college, my dad didt have the money so I worked full time AND went to school full time. Hubby had a situation worse than mine - he had relatives who generously offered their unfinished garage for hubs to build a room in, had him care for 6 kids AND household tasks AND all children’s care, worked part time to buy schoolbooks and took at least 15 credits a semester. We both worked or butts off for 20 hours a day or more in our college years and are now dealing with a kid who cant handle 6 credits With NO job, NO household responsibilities, room a disaster and always worried about his own personal health and well-being.
W.T.F. (sorry TLK and Ehsan saabs) but, really…
Who ever thinks that the world owes them a living is in for a sorry awakening. These things are not tolerated in any profession so PEOPLE GET YOUR ACTS together!!!
Look Mama, this kid, whose living with you, isn't an exact copy of you or your husband. So have expectations of him, but also keep in mind he isn't as responsible, caring, or studious as you were. However, he is an individual, and maybe you both learned some responsibilities at an early age in life, however, its gonna take him some time. And his time will probably start when he gets his first job, which he has to have because he has to pay rent, food, and soo on. Right now you and your husband are doing everything that was not done for you, hence him not understanding responsibility.
Im not saying make drastic changes, but understand that everything is handed to him in a platter, so why do you think he would ever want to be responsible on his own?
And believe me, maybe times have changed since you were in college but most of us still work our butts off in school. Most of us still don't have the luxury to take the easy way out (getting someone to do our HW, always cheating).
Gaia,THANK you for your reply!! Its very redeeeming and refreshing to hear that some people still actually work, and work HARD, for what they want out of life. Thats why I went to college...I wasnt looking to have a party-time on someone elses credit card. And its just such a turn off to see someone - esp family - who is like this. I really need to figger out how to straighten his arse out, short of assigning him to boot camp
