do you feel that making use of this interpersonal treatment is fair when you accord it to those, who treat you with the same, why or why not?
is it a practically sound way in order to observe another person before becoming open to the same?
Dushwari
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Dush! You threads are increasingly becoming more complex, intricate, linguistically hard to grasp and a bit mythical. Why like that?
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There is a hadith that "Silence" is also an ibadat. It is even stronger message than expressing anger, and gives you enough time to cool down and think over the matter with a cool mind instead of making an emotional mistake by saying something for which we might have to repent later.
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True. However, Dushwari is asking about calculated silence where one is intentionally holding back, trying to get a response from other. I don't think that is a good thing.
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its the best way to cope with a nosy susral in my opinion..
:P
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In start of a relation , well you can do it for a while but if ya keep doing it for long then its weird . I cant trust these people !
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Witchdr, that is fine. your concern is appreciable.
maybe it will highlight what has been overshadowed in human nature - value of the ability to see and acknowledge what is being said.
Hin33, silence is better than argument in that context, after you have used your right to bring to the table, what is being done wrong.
having faith and keeping oneself honest and respectful is a greater gain over petty motives and suspicious or nosy behaviors of some in-laws.
educated and fair families will be even more careful with their son in law and daughter in law, more than they would be with their own son or daughter.
they would love them more, be sensitive to their needs and not degrade them.
but unfortunately, many people are not like this. but not all are like them.
Bro. STP, thanks for sharing the hadith. this validation is concurrent with an affect of measured patience and inner stablity.
aliyish,
duration is one of the main factors. because after some time, it does indicate that the care is not there to even respond back to say, No to hint of a cherished relation. it is good because it will establish the true nature of the relationship for future.
Best,
Dushwari
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oooye hoye dushwari ko understand karna to bara dushwar hai...:D