You know how usually the groom and bride cut the cake and feed it to each other and the families? I thought this was just a cute little rasam but apparently its not (?) At this wedding I went to the groom and bride cut the cake and the groom took a piece to feed it to the bride but she told him to feed it to his mom first. I didn’t think it was a big deal but all these aunties were like “OMG aisa nahin karna chaaye tha”! And " now the mom-in-law will think she can be controlling". When we asked the aunties what they were talking about they said that cake cutting symbolizes the love between a husband and wife and feeding someone with ur hands makes the love grow stronger and now that the bride let him feed the mom first she is basically gonna be first in his life etc etc etc
i honestly didnt think it was a big deal but these aunties were whipping out philosophy and history and examples to prove their point. I’d never heard of it before and these aunties were from both the groom and brides side.
its a dessert. you have it at your wedding because its delicious and pretty. you cut it so you can have the first piece of yummy delicious cake before your piggie dessert-loving guests get their hands on it. you feed it to your husband and he feeds you because you're standing next to each other and you'd look like a right porker chowing down on cake without even offering it to him, or him to you, first. :p
the end.
And as far as this is concerned I've never thought of it as a rasm nor anyone encouraging the bride and groom to feed each other but I found what the bride did a little annoying. It's like was she trying to be be Miss Self-rightous? =/
i agree somegroovychick! it was pretty silly of those aunties to create a story of it especially considering i thought that this was a northwestern custom and these aunties are pure desi!
its kinda sad when aunties/people create drama for nothing!
@maria416 yah i know what you mean-groom offers u cake eat it!no need to get all oo nooo please aap ammi ko dain blablabla
I agree with your self rightous comment Maria...I thought that was totally uncalled and tacky on the brides part...he is your husband just feed him the cake or would she have him feed her mom first and then her?
Haha, the practical-blunt one^^
Me likey.
And as far as this is concerned I've never thought of it as a rasm nor anyone encouraging the bride and groom to feed each other but I found what the bride did a little annoying. It's like was she trying to be be Miss Self-rightous? =/
