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It's this silly thing in our culture that parents think their sons will be the ones to care for them. But will their daughter-in-laws really do it selflessly? I don't think so. My relationship with my parents was very similar to yours. I was a daddy's girl also and my mother was making sure I had a long list of chores and no freedom compared to my brothers. In their own ways they tried to ensure that I'd become responsible and mature as I got older. My brothers however got a little babied. So I tend to think I am more patient and prepared to care for my parents especially when they're very elderly and weak. I grew up with my Daadi in our home. She was my mom's Khala so my mom was the main caretaker. She developed Alzheimer's and had a series of strokes. She deteriorated very quickly. So I helped care for her. Even if I just sat with her or brushed her hair she would rub my hands and say thank you. It meant so much to her that I just sat with her. Caring for parents is not just a financial responsibility. It's emotional also. I hope that your brothers do grow up to be what your parents need. And I hope that between you and your brothers, you can all share the responsibility of caring for your parents.