But Why Daddy?

[nia_khan]

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@SolarOceans

If my husband did that i’d hurt him. We should be the bad guys together or the good guys together.

On a side note, I don’t believe in hitting. I was hit as a child and it just made me resent. Parenting is so hard. . . you never really know which way is going to work until they’re all grown up.

solar she is talking about grandmother..

[SolarOceans]

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Ooops. I read dadi as daddy. . . sorry.

[Faisal]

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All you parents (and wanna be parents) need to develop The Stare. One look with The Stare and the child follows you. No fuss in the public place. Explanations come in later.

[ChupKeSe]

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lollll i saw that episode! it was soo funnyyy!

[Lajawab]

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@Miss_Mohabbat

Children are NOT “it’s” and must NEVER be referred to as “it”.

Every child will ask why as soon as they learn how to say it. There’s no right or wrong way in dealing with it. “Because I said so” is highly patronising and teach’s the child nothing but how to say the same when they are older…that adults say things and children must accept it without ever questioning anything again.

Honestly is always the best policy with children, however age and child’s maturity are key factors to consider.

A child is an ‘it’…It is neither a 'he nor a ‘she’…

When a child knocks on the door, and someone opens it, and some one asks, “Who is it?”, What do you say?

You say, “It’s a kid” or “It’s a child”…

Capiche?

The nerve of some people…Teaching me English…

[parissenoor]

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@Lajawab

^^
I am no parent, but a slap might work…
j/k…I know you love your kids and so on…
The biggest problem in our culture (Which has popped up and which is also quite unIslamic) is that we take kids as kids…

True, some things should be hidden from them for a certain time, but I think everything must be explained in detailed and simple manner to every child…

The child may be a child but it has intellect…It can recognise emotions and such as well as any grown up…

So explaining in detail is best…Talk to a child like he was a grown up…They are smarter than you think…

…i wish i had father like you:rolleyes:

@Sara516

I saw that episode, n all those type of parents who will give in to insanely ridiculous demands are retarded and should stop reproducing to protect society! Okay kinda kidding bout the sterility part but still..

** Uhmm.. basically you sit them down and explain the deal.. they’re kids, they’re not stupid brainless fools** unless thier parents are as welll..

and a mommy like sara

[parissenoor]

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@hiccup

All of the older generation were given a slap ( at the very least) and they are not all lunatics, if anything we have more of them now. Overly reasoning with children and not setting boundaries gives then an over inflated sense of self-importance.

A smack a day keeps narcissism away :k:

so much that afterwards it grows to be teenager with very low self esteem after, and who can not even re"spect themselves…that’s plain stupid…and i know what i’m talking about…i had no more respect for myself as for for garbage bin due to that kind of upbringing, it took me many mistakes to learn that i had value and was a respectworth individual…and also slapping my parents door more than once…

you should think about it, if as a parnet you on’t love and respect your child, no one is gonna do it…if no one respect and love a kid, it can become a very disturb teenager, and a messep up adult, allah ka shukar i was intelligent enough to overcome all this

[Muzna]

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I'm all for talking things through......but there are times when kids just get stubborn and then Mamaof3's way prevails.

But a lot of this is dependent on age too........

13 year olds, as far as I am concerned and as far as I have seen, have the ability to reason and understand. Time should be taken to sit down and communicate.

On the other hand.....13 year olds also have the ability to present some pretty compelling arguments of their own.......then Faisal's solution should be implemented.

[KARAKUSH]

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@parissenoor

you should think about it, if as a parnet you on’t love and respect your child, no one is gonna do it…if no one respect and love a kid, it can become a very disturb teenager, and a messep up adult, allah ka shukar i was intelligent enough to overcome all this

:k:

[Sara516]

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@parissenoor

so much that afterwards it grows to be teenager with very low self esteem after, and who can not even re"spect themselves…that’s plain stupid…and i know what i’m talking about…i had no more respect for myself as for for garbage bin due to that kind of upbringing, it took me many mistakes to learn that i had value and was a respectworth individual…and also slapping my parents door more than once…

you should think about it, if as a parnet you on’t love and respect your child, no one is gonna do it…if no one respect and love a kid, it can become a very disturb teenager, and a messep up adult, allah ka shukar i was intelligent enough to overcome all this

[Sadaf]

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@SolarOceans

If my husband did that i'd hurt him. We should be the bad guys together or the good guys together.

On a side note, I don't believe in hitting. I was hit as a child and it just made me resent. Parenting is so hard. . . you never really know which way is going to work until they're all grown up.

Yeah, I was talking about the grandmother...
But I never said anything about anyone hitting the kids...
The point I tried to make is it should be the right of the Mother/father of the kids to take responsibility of them. If they decide not to fulfill all of their demands, then no one should question them or tell the children that their parents dont love them.