But Judge We Do

[SaeedinPakistan]

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@PyariCgudia

But did you read the article? It's not about feeding or not feeding them in fact, it's about how they're treated like second class citizens. Not respected as employees, but rather, treated more like slaves. Except they get a little money for their hard work.

I mean these aunties sit there and talk about these girls, like a farmer would be talking about his cows. The dheet didn't give milk again this year!

I dunno, I mean, there are maid services in the US. Now I haven't ever used one, but I'm sure if I asked one to come in, she would come in for a few hours, charge me an arm and a leg, and she would not tolerate being talked to the way Pakistani women talk to their maids. You think a Mexican maid would deal with that attitude? She would give you a middle finger, crap in your toilet, and then leave you with a fat bill. And then her company would prolly threaten to take you to court if you didn't pay up.

I mean these little girls just get pushed around, and it's the smallest things that make them happy. I remember a little girl - a daughter of one of the maasis - that came over during the summer with her mom, and her mom would work her, and so I asked if she be spared, and let the girl play with my sister and cousin who were her age. Her mom made some faces, but reluctantly agreed, since we weren't ok with child labor. So, the little girl sat there with us, and my sister would teach her ABC's, and they would do pottery work together. I have NEVER seen such a HAPPIER kid.

And these basic things that we give our children, these maasis can't give their families. A nice dress, a perfume, a lipstick, they get so excited about this stuff.

I dunno, if someone talked to me like that and I was babysitting their kid, I wouldn't take it, and I'm sure you girls wouldn't either.

Why do you always forget the differences in the two economies. Comparing maids in the US to maids in Pakistan is like comparing Apples and Oranges. Yeah the unemployment numbers are at an all time high in the US, but they are a lot higher in Pakistan. People will do almost anything to keep a job over in Pakistan and if that means putting up with abuse, so be it.

The only way to fix the country is to fix the economy ( and education), the rest will follow.

[queen_24]

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@RocketSocket

Then why bring them along?

Why not? They are their kids, can't leave them back at home and bring the maid along for taking care :/

[RocketSocket]

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Then why feed them before bringing them along? It may be even weird at night because most kids tend to sleep right after they eat.

[queen_24]

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@RocketSocket

Then why feed them before bringing them along? It may be even weird at night because most kids tend to sleep right after they eat.

ab yeh to unhee se poocho :/

[gudiaali]

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this doesn't reflect Pakistani society. this is only about a fraction of society. an average Pakistani cant go and dine in at a restaurant, let alone taking the whole family, kids and maids to a restaurant.

having said this, the people who can afford to keep live in maids do take them along most of the places they go. like dining out, shopping, dawats, outings/picnics etc and i don't see any harm in it. rather its a good thing. the maids get a fresh air and some entertainment as well. we have maids in our families who we take along. the maids look after the kids while moms eat and shop in peace. this is not true that they cant sit on the same table. they sit on the same table but yes they eat after any one of the family member is finished eating and can tend to the kids while the maid eats.
at home too, maids get to eat the same food that is cooked for all. brand new clothes after every few months and loads of extra cash on births/marriages for their kids/sisters/brothers etc.

[RocketSocket]

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@gudiaali

this doesn't reflect Pakistani society. this is only about a fraction of society. an average Pakistani cant go and dine in at a restaurant, let alone taking the whole family, kids and maids to a restaurant.

having said this, the people who can afford to keep live in maids do take them along most of the places they go. like dining out, shopping, dawats, outings/picnics etc and i don't see any harm in it. rather its a good thing. the maids get a fresh air and some entertainment as well. we have maids in our families who we take along. the maids look after the kids while moms eat and shop in peace. this is not true that they cant sit on the same table. they sit on the same table but yes they eat after any one of the family member is finished eating and can tend to the kids while the maid eats. at home too, maids get to eat the same food that is cooked for all. brand new clothes after every few months and loads of extra cash on births/marriages for their kids/sisters/brothers etc.

I like your family.

[uzair1]

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If they are allowed to share meals in restaurants, made part of all the activities the family enjoys, given good clothes to wear and generally treated well; their expectations from life will go through the roof. They will be in for disappointments. Besides, one day they will have to marry a driver, janitor or peon.