Hi, my situation is like yours but the difference is that I got married 4 years ago and that time I only work part-time. My younger sister and I got married at the same time. I am still living with my parents coz my husband think we still need help. I pay monthly to my parents but my husband is not happy. I have one daughter. Even we live together but everyone has problems. I suggest when u come. You should move out once your husband come here. If u stay with ur parents. You will face a lot of problems. I mean u know how this damad and saas, sasur rishta are. I feel I m stuck here.
Hi, my situation is like yours but the difference is that I got married 4 years ago and that time I only work part-time. My younger sister and I got married at the same time. I am still living with my parents coz my husband think we still need help. I pay monthly to my parents but my husband is not happy. I have one daughter. Even we live together but everyone has problems. I suggest when u come. You should move out once your husband come here. If u stay with ur parents. You will face a lot of problems. I mean u know how this damad and saas, sasur rishta are. I feel I m stuck here.
does ur husband works? Are you still working?
Why ur husband is not happy about u paying ur parents...u should remind him, if you were living with his parents then you had to contribute then why not now when he is living with ur parents..
Yes, he works too and my parents also watch my daughter when I am at work, but I guess this is his way of thinking coz he believe that my parents gives more favors to my other sisters then me. He doesn't talk to anyone in my house, but he wants to stay there. I ask him that we can move and I can leave my job, but he never wants me leave my job. My life is very complicated. I wish I have moved out as soon he was here, but that time it was not possible.
I have to agree with Spoko here... there is a certain level of selfishness here regarding the " couple" all the time. I had my nikkah in 2010 and my wedding was booked for the following year same time. My husband actually came over to UK around 6 months after my nikkah to do his exams here and stayed with my family for a majority of the time. similarly after my wedding when we returned to UK we stayed with my parents for a year until we could set up our own place. I myself had worked for 1 year before my marriage but was no where near a position to be buying houses in the UK house price market. I would not say for one moment we felt a burden on our parents i would say the same way i was given 2 months in Pk to get a chance to live with my in laws and form a close bond with them, my husband had the same luxury to gain a close relationship with my family. In regards to remarks of not getting married until you can afford to " set yourself up" i find this comment rather ignorant. My husband was a doctor in PK, very well studied and had been working for 2 years, we were 25 and 27 when we got married and i would have to say getting married at a reasonable age is very important, as, you can always wait for the "right time" and the "right amount" of money to come around but when will that be? When my hubby came he studied from day one, MashAllah passed his exams to work and got a job straight away , yet still we needed the 6 months - 1 year to stand on our feet and get settled. In all of this more than anyone my parents are the most proud, for being able to be there and guide us in those initial days when he was new in this country and feel we still gave them the respect of their advice and wisdom to help us make our first start in our new life.
Whatever works for them... Realistically, she would have to be working or have some major savings for him to get a visa.. Or go down the pregnancy route maybe.
Whatever works for them... Realistically, she would have to be working or have some major savings for him to get a visa.. Or go down the pregnancy route maybe.
There is no minimum income requirement for spouse visa. One of my dad's friend's daughter was working part time at Tim Horton's before her marriage and then quit that job after the marriage to go live with her husband in Pakistan. She was able to sponsor her husband without any job or savings.