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December 18, 2008, 1:39pm
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We’re in the process of setting dates for my wedding and so far so good. The dates are being set for sometime in June of 2009, Inshallah.
The problem is, my in-laws are strictly against Mehdni ki rasam. In my family we do a BIG blow out Mehndi for the ladies so the girls can get to dance and have an awesome time. On the wedding, we dont dance because its a mixed event and my parents are a bit on the conservative side. We do speeches, dinner, singing because people in my family love to sing, etc. My in-laws forbade my fiance from having anything to do with the Mehndi and wont budge. Upon pressuring them a bit, their response was “Mehndi ki rasam is a hindu tradition. Aap yahi paisa jake Eidhi foundation ko dedein aur kisi ghareeb ki shaadi karadein.” I understand that, but my family is very very active already in giving charity, sadaqah, niaz, etc. Mashallah, they do a lot.
Its my Mehndi man…I dont want to give it up but I feel almost ashamed of having one after hearing that. On the other hand, its a family tradition! My sisters’ Mehndis lasted until 4am! I would feel cheated letting it go…
Its my wedding…now I dont know what to do…
Hy, Congrats my family is setting my dated about the same time too:hugz:
i think u should just have a party anywayz, Party heavy untill the early hours and do what ever u would do on a normal Mehndi, just dont call it a “Mehndi party”…
