How do you parents suggest dealing with bullying/harassing? So an older relatives child bully’s the younger toddlers in my home and the parents are ok with it. It is worthless trying to talk to the parents so please make other suggestions.
Thanks.
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Well being in exactly the same situation, best is to take action urself if parents aren’t.
Taking action would mean telling the bullies to stop, lightly doing exact back to them that do to toddler, taking toddler out of their reach, etc.
My baby got bullied by my 4 year old neice and finally i stepped in. StYing quiet didnt help. AH things are better.
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as soon as it;s happening i would step in and firmly tell the bully NO, this is not right, do not do this etc, parents should be doing this and if they are ignoring it, then it’s your job. Step in, and do not let your kid get bullied. I’ve told off a few kids for doing this and they have never EVER bullied my kid again.
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I had ‘relatives’ staying over when my children were younger. In this case. my then 5 yr old at time was bullied by a 3 yr old cousin.
I made sure to say something to the 3 yr old in a nice way in front of the 3 yr old s parents. Everyone knew what was going on, and my 5 yr old was miserable in her own home. Bullying continued..I watched and looked to see what my child was doing also. had no problem telling off the other child and my child when needed. Well these relatives never forgot I said something to their child, always been a sore point.
Fast forward a few yrs, and we came across some old home movies. Movies was made at the time of this incident, and it showed quite a few instances of my then 5 yr old being bullied (some which were unknown to me). We happened to watch this movie with that 3 yr olds parents, who were quite mortified to see their child was in fact a brat at the time. My older children very happily told the then 3 yr old “see what a bully and brat you were; we were always told to be quiet and make allowances for you since you were the younger cousin”.
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One of my guy cousins was a nasty bully and he would often bully me and my friend. His mom refused to believe that her innocent beta was capable of even thinking of bullying. Finally my mom had had enough and she told me and my friend to fight back if the bullying continues. One day he tried to creep up on us, but friend and I were prepared. I held both his hands real tight while friend poured cold water on him 
. His mom was furious, of course, but my mom calmly told her “if you can’t control your son, my daughter will”.
My mum rocks!
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Thank you for sharing your stories and making suggestions.
We have talked to the “bully” on several occasions, but now he does it when no adults are around. The worse thing is it kind of like LucyMay said, the parents are part of it. Also toddlers they do not have the capability of self-defense at such a young age. So these things make the situation difficult.
There is a simple solution, tell the parents that I told my kid not to play with yours anymore. That is your polite way of telling them that if you bring your kid to my home, I am going to take my kid inside another room and stay there.
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TLK…that is a simple solution but not practical. It simply cannot happen, particularly when you have guests in your home. You can’t isolate yourself or your child in a room and stay there.
We have some extended family that have really bratty kids…they are bratty, bullies and very good at the art of telling untruths. They very easily lay blame on other kids for things they have done. These kids are between the ages of 5 and 11. I’ve tried speaking directly to them, tried scolding them, tried threatening them with dire consequences but nothing has stopped them.
I then tried speaking with the parents that do nothing to monitor/supervise or entertain their kids. The vast majority of the times the answer that I got was, “When we come out we don’t want to have to deal with the kids…they can entertain themselves…we are out to have a good time for ourselves.” (These are mainly SAHM with three to five kids each.)
Ultimately I figured out that the only way to keep these kids from bullying each other and from destroying my home was to provide them with age appropriate activities. I started making sure that every time they come there are games and challenges to keep them occupied. I motivate them with prizes and gifts and encourage the elders to help the younger ones.
So far so good.
At the last Eid event we had 23 kids.
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Muzna u are too nice!
OP, I would slap the kid to kingdom COME!!!
DISCLAIMER This might not work for you, but I swear I would!
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ALLAH demi itnii beyreham na banoo
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hawwwwww…AB!!! U LOVE your nephew na?
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^ i dont have any :halo:
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MERA BACHA TUMHARA NEPHEW. ULLU!
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For a toddler, you will have to step up and stop them…become a barrier b/w them and the toddler, remove them physically from where the toddler is playing, tell them that they are being mean to the little child. Be firm and consistent. Try to limit your socialization with them.
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i am passing through same situation My two year old is being hit by kids around. we live in a close community where we go out to the park everyday. or i go to a neighbour`s home or someone comes at my place with their kid. my boy gets hit almost all the time. and all he does is cry and come to me. he is very quick in hitting me or his dad at home , but with other kids , he simply wont
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ohh achaa 
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u have preggo brain
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^perhaps 
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If I were you, I would distance myself from such families.