Bullies and cyberbullies

[rabia3983]

Re: Bullies and cyberbullies

@khattichic

I don’t think I agree with is, it seems like a gross exaggeration. I spend a lot of time as a youth group advisor at our masjid and I can say that some of the meanest kids I’ve seen are the ones whose moms are the gossipy, “ladies who lunch” stay at home crowd. They emulate the behaviors they see at home. I think what moodie is getting at is if kids witness their parents being snarky/elitist/mean spirited they will learn those behaviors themselves. Kids are like sponges and absorb everything. Teaching empathy is the easiest way to prepare your kids on how to deal with bullying.

Going back to your earlier comment about bullying not being prevalent in schools in Pakistan…my husband has told me plenty of stories about the antics of his classmates in KHI, and they were downright mean. It’s not a geographical problem, bullying happens everywhere and takes on many different forms.

I guess i really don’t have much experience in this situation and my opinion is really based on what i have read and seen on TV and news. So your hands on experience are more of a lesson for me And reading from your experience i can see how it is different.

What i was saying is kind of the same, not having a stable house hold (parents fighting, arguing, MIL and DIL fighting and calling each other names–unstable situations). In the example where i said not having or knowing your parents i was referring to single mother who really don’t have time to teach their children the good and the bad (not generalizing and not saying all single mothers do this, just some either because their first priorities are not their kids or because they are too busy with work.)

Also, what i experienced while in school in Pakistan (20 years ago,) was completely different and there was no bullying in the playgrounds or the classrooms. A little teasing here and there is normal, but not the bullying that’s causing kids to commit suicide.