What to do when this is broached? How to regain it? Can it ever be pure again?
I realize this takes time but I fear I’ve become a child of insta-fixes. Wish I could get it in one of those Curry in a Hurry boxes…
And how much should one give up to gather a precious few drops back?
Will the gain be worth the pain of having it thrust back in your face everytime there's a lil' flare?
ps - welcome back.
It can take time and that can take years.
Try to be as honest and truthful you can be and ask them to forgive you.
You can't do anything more then that. If one wants to be immature and decides not to forgive you Its alright. Allah sees your deeds :~)
And you know what else it shows- how much they actually care or what your value for them.
samundar,
who exactly are you referring to when breaking this trust with?
(i.e. parent, bf/gf, friend, beagle, etc)
And what's the meaning of 'gather a precious few drops'? Tears or what?
Its not going to be the same, nothing is the same once its broken.
Drop your glass and try joining it together, do you think when you are done fixing it..will it be the same? no : ) so what may have occured will take time to mend the shattered pieces.
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samundar,
(i.e. parent, bf/gf, friend, beagle, etc)
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I think brother samunder here is talking about his girlfriend. I think this matter needs bit more introspection. Brother, please, start from the beginning to let us help you better. How did you meet this girl? Is she cute? How was it like when you first made out? Help us to help you, dear brother.
Samunder, I think trust is an overrated abstraction. People change all the time. And philosophers suck.
You asked, what to do? well, you kick yourself in the ass and move on. Start afresh. Send your g/f some chocolates and a bottle of scotch.
Samunder, did Roman dumped you again ?...told you that she can't be trusted.
Is it by choice or is it by chance. Some things can not be broken others can.
Also why think of what you get back in return. Can you not just give of your free will without expectations. Something that simply comes without the need to receive,
Trust can and should always be able to be built. People change, timings change, cicumstances change. All these changes, allow for new and wonderful opportunities to re-build trust. IF we lose this capability we will be at each others throats forever.
Look for trust in a curry in a hurry box with the usual sidekicks. Aam ka achaar and cucumber raita. 
Brother Chaltahai,
Your response was, as usual and as always, lame and vague. I think brother samunder should not try to re-build the trust thingie and move on the real curry instead of seeking the boxes. Or may be he needs to learn the difference between real curry and boxes first. I don't know. Depends on our brother's (in Islam, of course) insta-fix addictions and perceptions.
My point was that since your sex change operation has been successful the boys in chelsea can take you seriously again.
Brother Chaltahai,
Please, dukhti rug (pun intended) par haath naa rakheiN.
PS-
Is Chelsea cute?
The question is not whether CHelsea is cute. It;s whether her boys find you attractive. Having seen you...I say, you are a shoe-in. (no pun intended)
Brother, please, don't ridicule my shoes or what goes in 'em. I am sorta sensitive about it.
it really comes down to an individual situation actually.
Some bonds are unbreakable. Close blood ties for example. And when trust is broken between such a bond; it really hurts. It's true that people change, circumstances change, but why should a person's morals have to change. The broken glass analogy doesn't sit right with me. It's more like having a part of your body injured, you try your best to treat it and have it healed. There are ups and downs in every relationship, and one should be as open-minded to a situation as possible. But sometimes it's better to forget and move on, you can't have a rotten body part remain attached to you, sometimes it's best chopped off, lest the poison spreads and kills you whole.
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Some bonds are unbreakable. Close blood ties for example. And when trust is broken between such a bond; it really hurts. It's true that people change, circumstances change, but why should a person's morals have to change. The broken glass analogy doesn't sit right with me. It's more like having a part of your body injured, you try your best to treat it and have it healed. There are ups and downs in every relationship, and one should be as open-minded to a situation as possible. But sometimes it's better to forget and move on, you can't have a rotten body part remain attached to you, sometimes it's best chopped off, lest the poison spreads and kills you whole.
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So once you forgive, doesn't the past sit in the back of your head? Surely, a glass will eventually be back in the same shape or form but there are still cracks in it which echo the past. I don't think it poisons you but teaches you and you learn from it and that the mistake shouldn't be forgotten but something to take heed to, which in turn creates history.
Coco,
You're an idiot, and you're not doing anything about it either.
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Coco,
You're an idiot, and you're not doing anything about it either.
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Care to elaborate on your observation oh great fallen emperor