Re: building tensions
Okay, if this is too personal don’t answer it; were you HER first choice as DIL? Some couples have different preferences for their sons and daughters?
If you ain’t the first choice for your MIL she may be holding that against you. As long as your husband ain’t jumping on the bandwagon or forcing you into a situ you ain’t comfortable with you should be able to ‘exist’ within the family structure-even if the role is extremely small. Your still the Mother of her grandchildren even if she don’t like you.