One of the most beautiful relationship in the world is relationship between siblings.
This is blessing of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala.
Brothers are most protective and loving for their sisters.
I require an advice for grooming and helping my sister in the most positive ways.
She is an on job medical doctor while i am an engineer.
She has excellent counseling skills and people including her patients feel very comfortable talking to her.
She has happy-go-lucky nature and whenever someone approaches her with a tension she calms her down so easily.
I want to further groom my sister in her life and want to be able to help her.
I see her spending lot of time on reading novels both online and offline.
I want her to be more active in practical life e.g. start driving lesson, give FCPS part 1 exam, go out more.
I also give her beauty tips to which she gets angry. She is very beautiful and fair skin girl but I want her to be more active on makeup part where she doesn’t listen to me.
I want her to make some practical plans and stop wasting time on novels.
How can i groom her more and be more active in life , have some practical goals in life?
Re: Brother's love for his sister: advice required
She is an on job medical doctor while i am an engineer. She has excellent counseling skills and people including her patients feel very comfortable talking to her. She has happy-go-lucky nature and whenever someone approaches her with a tension she calms her down so easily.
I want her to be more active in practical life e.g. start driving lesson, give FCPS part 1 exam, go out more. I also give her beauty tips to which she gets angry. She is very beautiful and fair skin girl but I want her to be more active on makeup part where she doesn't listen to me.
I want her to make some practical plans and stop wasting time on novels. How can i groom her more and be more active in life , have some practical goals in life?
Your sister is a medical doctor and she has excellent communication skills/patients love her. So we already know that she's not an idiot and she's not socially inept.
The question here is how is her current lifestyle hurting her? What makes you think her life already isn't good enough? What is wrong with her current grooming? Why do YOU care about her make-up routine? Do your parents also think your sister needs to change?
Frankly without further details, based now what you wrote, you sound like a controlling/creepy brother who should be ignored.
Re: Brother's love for his sister: advice required
Are you concerned that she does not socialize outside of her work? I'm assuming that she is not married, so is that something you are worried about?
If reading novels is not preventing her from doing her job and effectively tending to the needs of her patients....then in at least that sense it's not a problem. Do you think that her reading is preventing her from giving attention to her family, home, and other aspects of life?
Perhaps she has a fear of driving, which is not uncommon. A driving school can help her feel more comfortable.
Some women MashaAllah se don't require much makeup. Frankly speaking I find that to be a welcome change because too many girls these days wear too much of it. A little goes a long way, in my opinion. It's a sensitive issue and since you can already see that she feels offended when you comment about her looks, then you need to stop. Everyone has their own style and some people prefer a more down-to-earth, natural look. I think that this issue would be better addressed by another female....such as your mom etc etc. The approach that you're using with your sister does not seem to be working. Again...physical appearance is a delicate matter and using compliments would work better than chiding and doling out suggestions and critiques. Example: That particular color and style looks gorgeous on you.
Your sister is a doctor...that means she had educational/professional goals which she has accomplished. I can understand about you wanting her to drive so that she does not have to depend on others. But what other "practical goals" are you referring to? I'm guessing that you want her to think more seriously about marriage....is that correct? Maybe you feel that she's too shy and doesn't meet people much? Have other people in the family/community complained that she does not greet/meet them?
Re: Brother's love for his sister: advice required
You really think a qualified medical doctor who has zero trouble communicating with her patients and taking care of herself needs advice from her BROTHER on how to be more sociable?
I think you're being a bit too pushy...give her her space and tend to your own matters.
Re: Brother's love for his sister: advice required
In Pakistan, there is a public transport system that does not render you reliable on others. Plus, employing drivers is quite affordable. Should one learn driving despite this? Yes, its a skill but is it as important as learning it in the U.S. where most cities don't have much of public transport? No. Regarding novels etc., when will people learn that making more and more money is not the sole objective of many people.I actually find people like that trite and boring. She works in a stressful profession and relaxes by reading. I find that really commendable.
You mentioned her being fair skinned and hence equating it with beauty. This speaks vastly of your mental status. I would advice you to go online and read some good books to broaden your horizon. If she lacks self grooming skills, its one thing but make up? Maybe you should talk to other females in your family to speak to her about it. Otherwise, I would let it go. If she is qualified to make life and death decisions about other human beings, surely she should be relied upon to make ones with less impact about her self.
Re: Brother's love for his sister: advice required
i don't understand what everyone is finding creepy here. OP, i would suggest buying your sister some makeup as a kind gesture and gift. because i'm so concerned about your concern for your sister, let me suggest some makeup that will go down a treat:
Re: Brother's love for his sister: advice required
i don't understand what everyone is finding creepy here. OP, i would suggest buying your sister some makeup as a kind gesture and gift. because i'm so concerned about your concern for your sister, let me suggest some makeup that will go down a treat:
"orgasm" by nars
"juicy melons" by too faced
"underage red" by kat von d
"virgin" by urban decay
very popular. :)
Since we're recommending specific make-up items....."Deep throat" by NARS would also suit someone who is fair skinned.
Re: Brother's love for his sister: advice required
i don't understand what everyone is finding creepy here. OP, i would suggest buying your sister some makeup as a kind gesture and gift. because i'm so concerned about your concern for your sister, let me suggest some makeup that will go down a treat:
"orgasm" by nars
"juicy melons" by too faced
"underage red" by kat von d
"virgin" by urban decay
very popular. :)
Since we're recommending specific make-up items....."Deep throat" by NARS would also suit someone who is fair skinned.