Re: Brothers kissing their sisters on cheeks, or anywhere.
Peace sister mirage
It is actually quite a straight-forward answer but it’s one that may not be too obvious … it is because we often think that mahram are those people in front of whom we don’t do purdah … therefore like with the husband or wife we can do other things with mahrams …
This is not the case … in Islam the spouse has a special status it is not the same as “mahram” - Mahram by definition is one with whom marriage would be illegal or haram. That means father, son, daughter, brother, sister, etc are in that category. Husband could not be since he is married. The conjugal relations between a married couple are explicitly allowed between them only.
Consider would it be halal or permissible to kiss a non-mahram on the cheek or hands and feet? No … it is because they are violating the sanctuary of what is permissible only in marriage … therefore if that is done with a mahram it is worse because those people can’t even be married to …
… If an unrelated couple commit zina and have a child there is always an option for them to get married … if this happened between brother and sister they could never get married yet to have child between them would be even worse than zina.
There is a hadith about ‘riba’ usury - and it talks about how the lowest form of usury is to marry ones own mother - it is an illegal contract - just like usury is an illegal contract.
It should be natural that a brother moves away from his mahrams - or a man keeps his distance from his daughters … those who don’t either are seriously tormented by shaitan OR moving dangerously close to it if their intentions are pure. Conduct with anybody needs to be specific and any act that can arouse sexual feelings should be avoided in non-mahram and even moreso in mahrams.
With the spouse there is a difference for obvious reasons. The wisdom that we take about why purdah is not required between mahrams is because of practical reasons and because their natural states will not move them sexually … only if they really twisted will this present a problem yet the Qur’an will usually address the vast majority normal situation.
thankyou very very much. im much helped but wished if you could please provide proper Ahadees or authentic references in this regard. when we turn to the religion as resort there should be references given too so that we can take it as a final word.