I have recently moved in with my brother and his family. My brother is divorced with 3 children and I am widowed with one daughter. I am currently working and pretty much self sufficient. Ever since I have moved in I have been helping out my brother raise his three children as he works full time and generally helping to cook etc.
It has been over a month since this arrangement is in place. Now the problem is that I feel bad that he has to take the burden of me and my daughter therefore I bought up the issue of moving out. So since he is in realestate I have asked to look for a place for me. I have also given him the option of letting me stay and pay my way with the houskeeping. The second option he has clearly said no to as in he refused to accept payment. So he was like okay look for a suitable place. At the moment there is a rental shortage and i think he knows we wont find anything either and since my hours are really awkward I havnt been really looking.
The thing is that we both kind of need one another but are too proud to admit it and well I would rather move out then be told to move out. Now I have found out that my brother is going overseas for a week leaving the kids with me and I was like I wish he would come out and say it. I love the kids to death and would love to stay as I find it a bit awkward and lonely to stay on my own but I am as to two minds on how to approach it.
talk it out.. atleast your thinking it and who knows, probalby your brother is too...
it would be the best arrangement if you al could live under one roof.. his children would get a motherly presence around them and you wouldnt be lonely out their on your own
dont try to think up teh convo.. just come out and say it...
Why would you like to throw away such a good arrangement ? for your ego ?
There is no ego with brothers and sisters , all they have a strong family bond and family tie.
Do you not feel a strong bond with your brother or does he not share the same bond either ?
I would also add that if your brother doesn't accept money from you , you can provide the options like for e.g. you buy the food items and he will buy the house keeping items (something like that).
Living together is a win win situation for both of you. Keep yours egos aside and think realistically. Wasay bhi I believe their should be no ego among siblings