Brother and Sister

Lifestyle Relationships
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Salam,

Brothers, how do you interact with your younger sister(s)? How friendly are you? How to improve on this relationship.

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i used to be very close to my brother and sisters. infact we used to plan our future together and discuss things and never thought that we will have any problems.

we used to consult eachother regarding even tiny issue.

before my brothers wedding, i went to my SIL's house and i over heard her talking to her sister that (i m not good at urdu or roman urdu so i will try): 'is ne ussay nechea lagaaya hua ha'.
and i found this very offensive and i told my mum and she told me not to say to anyone.

my SIL she is close to her brother and always tells him everything and what to do, even decides the colour of his clothes. then why she didnt understand that her husband is my brother.

after she got married and had one son she openly said that i am jealous of her son: why should i be.i love him more than my life, he is my nephew and had suffered lots of illnesses in his 2 years of life. why i be jealous of him.
she also said alot that i do this or i dont do this. i even i knew from the first day, that she is after me.
still i trusted her and never said anything to her. whenever i say anything about my husband or in laws, good or bad, she tells my in laws about it.

my mum is sick and she has language problems, if i am not available and she has to ask other relatives to take her to doctors or come with her. my SIL, even she promises in front of everyone that she will take mum to the doctor or will go with her, she never does. lately mum had to go for CT scan and my SIL refused to go and i couldnt take a day off from my work, mum went herself and then the doctors had to find indian guy to communicate with my mum.

i was so shocked when i found out that she didnt go with mum and she no reason for not going.

then she blamed me and mum for not trusting her.
these are few of the examples of troubles that can happen in relationships.

to be honest, you can have a great relationship with your sibblings untill anyof them gets married. when a third person is involved doesnt matter how good your relations are, things wont be same.

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I have a wonderful relationship with my sisters. since i am the older sister, i like to boss around a little but even though i do,we are still very close.

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bug her. :hehe:

we (me n my sibz) give each others utpatang mushwaray.
despite them being very very old.

btw…be honest with her…i mean i always reveal those suggestions what i have in my heart, or in mind.

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lucky you. i miss those days when we (my sibblings and I) used to sit together and talk for ours and never cared about anything else. it seems history now.
i give suggestions, now, to my dad and he always agrees with what i say!.

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aiklarkithe... i thought this was a siblings thread not a SIL bashing thread

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dont they come together, sibblings + BIL+SIL

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^ Depends on how you want to look at.

Yes, i look at my BILs and SILs but Id give them a lot more benefit of the doubt and respect than my siblings.

I adore my siblings and Mashallah se we have a great relationship.. one reason is that we dont discuss marital issues, we dont ever discuss each others spouses or even our own with one another...

my bro still behaves like he's 12 with me.. and my sis will always be my lil baby sis... we dont ever change the way we are with one another..

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you should take this as blessing from Allah.

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Mash'Allah good stuff. Now can the brothers come out from hiding and share their experiences.

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we aren't close sadly...agar matlab hoi, only then. Can destroy a family man, but he has to strive forward.
When you don't get along with your parents you rely on your siblings, especially when you're the eldest, lekin as I said matlabi.

They come to you, with a innocent face saying:

Bhaijaan, can I use your laptop
Bhaijaan, do you have 10 €
Bhaijaan do you have this and that

and when you want something

can't you afford it, asshole
I'm busy, can't you waiiiiiitttt...
I have no time, my friends are waiting in the chatroom

Chuck You!

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I think this is more a matter of her being a terrible excuse of a person…rather thaN abt the relationship between siblings after a marriage…anyway this is kinda offtopci :bummer:

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My sister and i joke around with our brother quite a bit (he is the youngest but acts like hes the oldest :hehe: ). OFten times when we go out, we will flank him on either side and hold both hsi arms and just walk like that. IF we need something, he gets it for us immediately and helps us in whatever way he can.

Hubs on the otehr side is an older brother to two sisters and htey have a more conservative relationship which is dependent on their family surroundings i think. He loves his sisters a lot, one of them is about to be married soon INshaAllah and he wants to get everything nice for her. When she got engaged, he made sure to ask her opinion and also grill the guy to ensure he was good for her.

Next Government & People !!
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Unfortunately I am not very close to my brother and sister. All three of us live in different countries and with the busy schedules its hard to catch up. The other contributing factor is I am older than both of them, so automatically they are closer to each other than me.