British Pakistani girls marrying Pakistani guys

gudiaali · June 6, 2013, 5:08am

Re: British Pakistani girls marrying Pakistani guys

I’ve read through the advice above and there is some extremely good points there, I guess I was probably expecting someone to give me a third option where I don’t marry the guy and everyone’s happy

A few people mentioned that the guy has probably changed since 17, which is what my sis also thought, but when she went to Pakistan with her husband last year and lived with the family for a month, she said he’s probably gotten worse than before, on one occasion, she was out with her husband, MIL and this guy, she was driving n her husband asked her if he could take over, when hos brother started getting really pissed off that he asked her permission.

Both the instances I’ve mentioned here my sis discussed with her husband, he agreed that his brother was wrong but denied that it was his fault, he told her that in Pakistan from a young age he and his bro have been told by the elders that they would marry and come to the UK, whenever they’ve thought about studying or their career options they’ve been put down and told not to bother as they’ll be moving to England. This guy has now completely left his education and doesn’t work at all, I earn more in a week than he’s earned in his entire life.
Im a very career oriented person and the thought of a 21 year old living off his father, really makes me lack any respect that I would have had for him.

But actually more then him, I blame his family his mentality

now here is the information that was missing in your earlier posts. they are told not to be bothered about education or work because they would be moving to UK via their wives!!! this is ridiculous and the height of “Lalchi pan”.
i am really wondering if this is the case then why even your sister got married into such a greedy, good for nothing family? and now why do you plan to ruin your life by saying yes to such a guy who will have no sense of responsibility towards his wife and kids as he is simply not brought up to be a responsibly husband who should meet his obligations towards family.