British Pakistani girls marrying Pakistani guys

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Re: British Pakistani girls marrying Pakistani guys

@Sanaya123

Its not that simple, this guy is also my brother in laws brother, but it’s not actually a choice between marrying him or someone else, more about trusting my parents opinion over my own

No, its not about that at all Sanaya.

Its about you being a responsible human being now - you’re an adult right? All grown up? Grown ups make their own decisions and pay their own bills.

Your parents will always TRY to do what is best for you. However, they’re human and very much prone to mistakes. Sometimes they may present you with a guy who THEY deem a good match because they don’t know all sides of him. You do. Now you can decide.

If you decide to go through with this marriage that you already have strong feelings against, remember one thing…you’re not doing anyone any favors. No one will erect monuments in your honor. This sacrifice will not go down in history as the ultimate a daughter can make. Everyone will assume you married this man willingly because you are.

@Sanaya123

I have the problem of the guy being my sister’s husbands brother, my sis is 8 months pregnant and happily living with her husband, but if I refuse this rishta, he’ll no doubt have bad feelings and most likely take it out on my sis. He is also my mom’s sisters son, who will again take her anger out on my mom. In this situation, if I thought solely about myself, I can easily get out of it and never look back, becoming completely detached to that family is one of my greatest dreams, but independence is not when you leave others to deal with the consequences of your actions, I don’t know how to apply my education to the situation to stop my actions affecting the people I love

@Sanaya123

He’s Pakistani and from my family, I don’t think any more evidence is needed. He’s okay right now, because we’ve given him no reason to complain, but as soon as the opportunity arises for him to create some huge drama, im quite sure he’ll jump at the chance

Let him. Its not your responsibility to keep your brother in law and sister happy. They’re married adults and fully capable of functioning on their own without a feeder and diapers. They’ll be fine.