Re: British Pakistani girls marrying Pakistani guys
Pregnant women (unless there are complications) are not as delicate as one may imagine-trust me I’m on my second pregnancy and I’m assuming I’m due around the same time and when I’m healthy nothing makes me ‘ill’ it’s when I’m not healthy then yes things get to me. Realistically your sister will be feeling quite upset at the whole thing anyhow as she’s the one who isn’t too keen on this situ.
Okay well based on your other comment about men from your family OP I’d say your sisters happiness is going to short lived anyhow so why add salt to the wound now? Simply delay your decision announcement until after the baby arrives. If he shows his true colours (as in he does prove to be a jerk like that) then it’s up to whoever chose this ristaa to DEAL with it-not you. Yes that’s selfish however how much more c!!p will you and your sister have to take to keep the others marriage potentially in working order?
I think OP it’s a case of making up your decision and when the time is right-once bambino arrives InshAllah you need to just get on with it and not sway if your BIL starts playing up. Realistically though he’s need to be a massive jerk/tosser/beep to do that to someone he’s just had a baby with.