British Pakistani girls marrying Pakistani guys

[Princess1983]

Re: British Pakistani girls marrying Pakistani guys

@gudiaali

i assume OP’s major concern is not on the clothes remark he made but on why he made that and truly so since OP was not officially engaged with him and her dad was present there too.
on the dressing thing, OP also mentioned that she mainly wears shalwar kameez and belongs to a conservative family herself, then i don’t think this conservative mindset thing would be a source of clash between them since both belong to conservative families apparently.
and anyone feeling uncomfortable with wives wearing western clothes does not make them bad or wrong as this is a matter of personal preference but what makes this wrong is their wish to impose the certain dress code for their wives.
the mature way for the guys is that they should clarify this thing before marriage if it is that much important to them and tie the knot with like-minded girls instead of trying to impose it on the girl once she has become their fiance or wife.

I know OP mentioned that she mainly wears desi clothes; (however judging based on what is said rather than what you actually see to be isn’t acceptable but as this is about OP that’s a different matter) the issue for someone is if this guy has not ‘matured’ or whatever people want to call it is the fact if someone has the whole “wait til I get there” mentality then where does it realistically stop? And unless OP marries him how will she find out? This as I said before may simply be the tip of the iceberg.

I find it amazing that people are willing to move to the UK; live here taken advantage of the education system but can still have issues with the small potatoes like clothing. Clearly OP has been raised by a conservative family (I’m sure that’s what she put) so for anyone to actually think it’s acceptable to pass comment that would imply otherwise in my opinion needs to take a dive unless as I said they’ve matured especially via an education.

Ma Mooli has a lot of wise words for you; I’d take note of them. Ma Mooli=pearls of wisdom and maturity beyond this dilemma.