British Pakistani girls marrying Pakistani guys

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Re: British Pakistani girls marrying Pakistani guys

@Princess1983

Okay firstly a lot of this garbage these desi boys throw around is because the woman in their family namely their months allow it. Sexism (that’s what I call it) was invented by them. It seems your family are not willing to think outside the boy sweets. If I’m honest with with you my husband comes from a Pathan family and my MIL would make the comments that ‘only kanj$$is wear western clothes’ without even looking at what clothes I actually wear when I’m in the UK. SADLY unless this guy is highly educated and actually understands the idea ‘when in Rome…’ you will be stuck with one of those guys who really doesn’t give a crap about you but more of what others think. If he makes such comments what about his family?Do you really want to be connected to these guys as these comments could be just the tip of the iceberg.

Why can’t your family find a decent ristaa outside your family in the UK? Is this because of caste? There are plenty of decent Muslim families in the UK-if your family is hellbent on destroying you (if that’s the case) then that’s personal preference.

TBH OP I cannot see the light of the end of the tunnel unless as I said he’s since got an education, is away from people with such ‘pendu’ thinking etc etc. It’s a slippery slope.

i assume OP’s major concern is not on the clothes remark he made but on why he made that and truly so since OP was not officially engaged with him and her dad was present there too.
on the dressing thing, OP also mentioned that she mainly wears shalwar kameez and belongs to a conservative family herself, then i don’t think this conservative mindset thing would be a source of clash between them since both belong to conservative families apparently.
and anyone feeling uncomfortable with wives wearing western clothes does not make them bad or wrong as this is a matter of personal preference but what makes this wrong is their wish to impose the certain dress code for their wives.
the mature way for the guys is that they should clarify this thing before marriage if it is that much important to them and tie the knot with like-minded girls instead of trying to impose it on the girl once she has become their fiance or wife.