Re: British Pakistani girls marrying Pakistani guys
First of all, I am a British Pakistani who married a Pakistani man. However, it makes no difference where he’s from or where I’m from. It’s not about what’s on paper, it’s about finding the RIGHT PERSON FOR YOU. You have to base it on your personalities; whether you both get on with each other; have the same goals in life as each other; have a similar style of thinking. From what you’ve said it sounds like your thinking is very different from the offset. And I echo what everyone else is saying that it’s not a good idea to go ahead with this, and you should end it now - though I think you already know that yourself.
Now to the tricky part - how to end it. It’s difficult because it’s your Khala’s son, which could destroy the relationship between your mum and Khala if you say no. However, you also have to think you don’t want to destroy your life do you? Why don’t you say to your parents that you don’t feel ready to marry yet as you want to concentrate on your studies, or something external and non-related to the rishta itself. That way you’re not placing the problem on him or his family. Or you could go down the religious route and say you need more time to pray and haven’t got ‘tassali’ yet with this rishta.
Whatever route you go down make sure you end it now or it will end in tears. And the next step is to talk to your parents and get them to do what’s best for you. You say so yourself that you’re a conservative girl, so I’m sure they will help in finding a match more suitable for you.