Bringing ghost out of the closet - again !

[jalpari90]

@Decent_6Chora

OK might sound stupid but how many of you (married) guys/girls use past issues for scoring points (or whatever) in new arguments with the spouse? Do you keep on reminding your spouse about the buried issues? To understand this

Once my sister did a fatal crime of giving out cheap gift to my wife’s sister when she passed the medical college exam (7 years ago) in Pakistan. My wife was of the opinion that my sister should have not given and that would have been perfectly OK instead of that cheap pen-set. I shared my wife’s view that my sister should have done better (which she otherwise do - I am not sure what happened then). So I agreed with the view that she could have done better and I thought that we have buried the ghost but NO. This ghost comes alive to haunt me in arguments as recent as last weekend.

Just to clear my wife’s position, she also give due praise to my sis where-ever its due so she does not really have an “on going” issue with my sis and normally they both go along pretty well for nund-bhabi living in same city.

So, taking above as an example, how many of you intentionally or unintentionally do this? When you know that your spouse will feel uneasy, do you still bring past issue alive in new arguments?

My to be husband does that but in a positive way. He reminds me how he handled similar situation in a positive way and that i should do the same.