I am from the Frontier Province, so I have not heard of this rasm, where the girls family brings breakfast for the entire guys family the morning after the wedding. My fiance told me not to worry about it (even though they are also from the Frontier, they lived all their lives in Islamabad), but my SIL told me that my family has to do it.
I’m so confused. Can anyone give me some advice? Anyone else from the Frontier who has done this rasm? Or even if your not from the Frontier, how important is this rasm?
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Its pretty important, its definitely a part of the tradition. Ive seen it done at every shaadi ive been apart of!
Nothing to stress about.. its all part of the fun. Good news is, most pakistani's consider breakfast to be around 2pm, soo you've got enough time the morning after the shaadi! lol. The last shaadi i was a part of, we did the "breakfast" at 330 in the afternoon, ha.
Enjoy all these rasm's! Its so much fun how we pakistani's have so many little traditions to incorporate into our weddings :)
Its a very common rasm. I’ve seen it at almost every wedding. My mom for my wedding prepared everything a day or two before. She bought some jam/peanut butter etc and made a nice basket that had bread jams achars etc. The morning of bkfast she made keema parhatay (lots of them) and ordered a halwa puri ka nashta for 20 people. Point of this rasm is, when larki wale’s family goes to her new house to pick her up, they take bkfast for her new family. Almost everyone expects it since its a common rasm. Sometimes when the guy’s family is nice enough (rolls eyes) they are considerate and tell the larki wale to not worry about going thru so much to make that bkfast..
My bhabi’s family didn’t bring breakfast since my mom strictly said no but my mom had to send bkfast for my in laws.
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Oh yeah I agree with BB... tell your mom to send bkfast after 11 or 12.. lol.. Everyone is tired including the bride and the groom so they wake up late.
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hmmmmm...at my wedding i think my MIL made some parathas and sent them over to us....then again it really wasn't much of a "rasam", only my BIL and my parents came over tot he hotel room the next morning.
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Yes, I had it for my weding. My parents got the breakfast at around 11 the next morning, it consisted of Nihari, toast and eggs (the last part for me). Just make sureto ask your in laws beforehand how many people are staying at their house and send breakfast accordingly, send a little extra as sometimes close relatives et esp if they are living nearby drop in in the morning as well. Do add some mithai/ cake as a "shagun" too.
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We did it too... Mum,Bro, khala, mami etc... (My side of the family) brought the naashta.
Halwa, puri, Aloo, chanay, Eggs (were all coloured, beautifully wrapped in a chaaba)
Then rusk etc were in a chaaba too.... Everything was so nicely packed.We all had good time, gupshup etc... I loved each n every rasm.
Then i had to leave for the parlour... Since it was a dopahar Valima.
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It's quite funny that I first heard about this so called tradition, a year or so back ...
I've been tó loads and loads of wedding, in Islamabad, Lahore, karachi, Multan, and in loads of places around europe, Germany, Denmark, Sweden, Norway, France, Spain ...
and I've never heard if this .. and I'd say 90% of the time, we stayed at the grooms house ...
I'm not doing it on my wedding, It seems pretty pointless and dumb ... why should the brides family cater for the grooms family, isen't it enough that thay get the girl :p ...
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pakistani princess is realy true
as a non pakistani girl i would say girl is enough ...but there girl's side do alot ...nothing should be on them...anyhow we will be ourslves guest of groom so nothing to be worry that my parents prepare for them...inshallah they will prepare for us ...lol
It's quite funny that I first heard about this so called tradition, a year or so back ...
I've been tó loads and loads of wedding, in Islamabad, Lahore, karachi, Multan, and in loads of places around europe, Germany, Denmark, Sweden, Norway, France, Spain ...
and I've never heard if this .. and I'd say 90% of the time, we stayed at the grooms house ...
I'm not doing it on my wedding, It seems pretty pointless and dumb ... why should the brides family cater for the grooms family, isen't it enough that thay get the girl :p ...
lol...thanks for that. Im just so confused. Like my family and my fiances both live in Canada, but my family lives almost an hours drive from where his family lives....and my family/parents are going to be tired from the wedding the night before, so I dont understand why they are expected to make breakfast, and bring it over to my inlaws house.
Since my fiance told me my family doesnt need to do it, Im going to follow that....I dont want to cause undue hardship for my family just cause my SIL wants breakfast the next day.
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I have always seen this being done on my family.My sisters and aunts did this when I got married.
I am against a million other traditions and things that are done in our weddings but this tradition,I like...!!
Its not like catering breakfast for the groom and his family,its more like the bride's family comes to visit her the next day.
Not sure about others but I was actually looking forward to see my sisters and aunts the next day...I am just like that...:)
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^^^ Yeah me too.. lol I love my mom's food. I wanted it bad after the long hectic day. I wanted some parhatay and keema that my mom makes.
I am against it too. My bhabi didn't do all this but I asked my mom to do it for me. She didn't mind at all. She was prepared so didn't have too much work plus had all my aunts and cousins helping her. Everyone in my husband's family kept saying how good your mom's parhatay are.. ah I felt good.
