so my friend showed me pics of the bridesmaid dresses we’re wearing at her mayoun. And, unfortunately, it’s REALLY ugly. I kind of knew this was coming since our tastes are ridiculously different. And usually, even though I’m particular about what I’m wearing, I don’t care too much. But I was not expecting something like this. It’s really cheap material with very little and really cheap kaam (those pattis that you just sew on). I don’t know what to do. I have lots of clothes because I came back from Pakistan last year and I’d much rather wear that but I don’t want to hurt her feelings. Bahhh.
I know I sound like such a diva but it really is a horrific outfit.
Is the bride (or her family) paying for all the bridesmaids dresses? If so then that could explain the lack of quality (ie. keeping the budget down).
Since the bride wants all the bridesmaids to wear matching outfits....it looks like you have no choice but to just wear it for that one day.
Its HER wedding. If she wants her closest friends to wear that particular outfit for a few hours during one of her events....then just suck it up and do it. And yes, you telling her that you want to wear your own outfit will hurt her feelings and/or cause an argument between the two of you. Not worth it in my opinion. :)
Is the bride (or her family) paying for all the bridesmaids dresses? If so then that could explain the lack of quality (ie. keeping the budget down).
Since the bride wants all the bridesmaids to wear matching outfits....it looks like you have no choice but to just wear it for that one day.
Its HER wedding. If she wants her closest friends to wear that particular outfit for a few hours during one of her events....then just suck it up and do it. And yes, you telling her that you want to wear your own outfit will hurt her feelings and/or cause an argument between the two of you. Not worth it in my opinion. :)
yeah, her family paid. Even though we told them that'd we'd pay for them ourselves since I knew something was up when her fashionable sister/cousin opted out and said they were going to get their own outfits.
hahaha
aren't the bridesmaids always looking ugly though?
Its to show that the bride is beautiful so I guess you'll just have to wear it..
pics :D
If she wore a sack on her wedding , she'd probably look better than us in that dress. I don't have pics but I saw it in person. It's like a person vomited highlighter yellow over a purple unicorn. :S
I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. Just style and accessorize according to your taste.
That's what I was thinking but the colors are so out there that I can't even fathom what to accessorize it with. Like I said highlighter yellow with strips of shiny purple tacky kaam that was tacked on at just the chest. The rest is completely plain. No kaam, nothing.
The mayoun is a ghar ka function. It's more important to look festive than to look heavy. I'm sure something got lost in the translation when the outfit was selected. But I don't think it's worth raising a fuss about it. Even tacky can be made to look fun and deliberate and trendy if styled right.
The mayoun is a ghar ka function. It's more important to look festive than to look heavy. I'm sure something got lost in the translation when the outfit was selected. But I don't think it's worth raising a fuss about it. Even tacky can be made to look fun and deliberate and trendy if styled right.
lol sorry I meant mehndi, but i suppose you're right. I just wanted to vent because I wanted to cry when I saw how bad those outfits were. I'm sure something was lost in translation because no one in their right mind would choose that color combo in fabric like that.
oh well.
^ Good luck with it. Are the sis and cousin coordinating their own thing? The only thing I can think of you suggesting is that it would look better for the rest of the bridesmaids to match them, at least in colors or something. But if she's insistent, then I'd just let it go.
^ Good luck with it. Are the sis and cousin coordinating their own thing? The only thing I can think of you suggesting is that it would look better for the rest of the bridesmaids to match them, at least in colors or something. But if she's insistent, then I'd just let it go.
Well from what I saw and heard from the cousin when we were all talking was that the cousin went "all out" in terms of design. Those ball hangy things that are in, completely different cut, more kaam, very specific in terms of fitting and size. The only thing that's the same for both those outfits is that they're going to be the same color as ours. I suppose there's no other choice, since I can't really demand anything because that'd be mean. I just wish that people would either let the 'bridesmaids' make their own outfits if they don't want to deal with the costs (I was in Pak at the time when this was all being done and I had told her I would HAPPILY get the outfits made by my cousin who designs all my stuff and I trust with my clothing but my friend has been insistent that she wants the kaam to be "very specific") or have something classy. It's a close friend so I have no choice but if it was upto me I wouldn't be caught dead in something like that.
the wedding is a few weeks away so I think it's too late to make adjustments. I got the idea that my friend isn't too happy with how they outfit turned out but instead of trying to fix it, she has the "well deal with it" attitude which is probably what's making me more mad.
the wedding is a few weeks away so I think it's too late to make adjustments. I got the idea that my friend isn't too happy with how they outfit turned out but instead of trying to fix it, she has the "well deal with it" attitude which is probably what's making me more mad.
A few weeks before my wedding.....I had tons of little things that wasn't happening the way I wanted it to. But I was so stressed out in general that there are MANY things taht I just "dealt" with b/c trying to fix them just wasn't worth it (plus I just didn't have the time or energy for it). NO wedding is "perfect". Every single wedding has things that don't turn out the way the bride wants it too. Sounds like your friend has decided this is going to be that "thing" in her's.
I feel your pain! At my cousin's wedding, all the girls wore the same dress in different colors and the dresses were awful! Really cheap looking kaam, poor stitching and fitting, and no one got the color they asked for. But my Khala spent a lot on the dresses and she made a genuine effort. Plus, brides prerogative and she wanted us to wear them, so we did. Although individually the dresses weren't good, together we all looked great, mA. The pics turned out well and we got so many compliments (maybe pity haha) We have no regrets, though I dont think anyone wore it again!
Sometimes it's more important to just be a part the festivities. It's not like there aren't several other events for you to look great at! So make the best of it - you can always get back at her at your time ;)