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A bride should marry at 17 when she knows nothing, or at 30 when she knows everything, or 24 when she knows somethings.
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A bride should marry at 17 when she knows nothing, or at 30 when she knows everything, or 24 when she knows somethings.
i would disagree......... if she stupid....she stupid.....age wouldn't change a thng..
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I would like to know if there is anyone here who got married after her 29th bday .. No my "aunt/sister/khala/chachi/neighbour" story
A personal experience
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thank you all very much for such kind replies.the girl i am talking abt is my best friend and also my sister's nand.infact it was me and her only who got my sis and her bro married.our families know each other too well now and discuss everything.my nikkah happened 2 years back when i was 26.but my friend M feels very disheartened now and keeps saying that she is going to be an "old bride" which she doesnt want to as she feels there are no good decent proposals left.ive tried very hard explaining to her in every way.but its her age that keeps haunting her.i cant see her in such pain.more posts and thoughts are welcum.since i am also 28 and not getting married untill next yearas my hubby lives in Canada.can i put another question "IS A 28 YEAR OLD GIRL AN OLD BRIDE?"
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But m agree with sehrysh here unfotunately... now @ the age of 28 i think i wasted my life in studies n fun. i got married last year n could't conceived yet.. last month i diagnosed hypo-thyroid disease n my weight reached to 80 kg from 65 kg.. so many tensions m facing now.. my life became like hell i'm even cannot enjoy my personal life... this is all bcz of over age m sure...
Maham, Sehrysh was joking about the age thing in her post.. Am sure your problems aren't due to age (one of my cousins was diagnosed with the same thing and she is only 22).. Agree with what Diamond said and inshAllah you will become a mother when your health improves :)
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strong girl... What I believe is: All a person can do is try and then should leave everything in Allah's hands. Nothing will happen being depressed and whining. If a person has done his/her best, tried everything what was in his/her hand and is satisfied with his/ her efforts, then there should be no reason to be depressed if he/ she doesn't get the desired results.
Trying is in our hands. We should leave the outcomes to Allah. He is the best planner and decision maker for us. I am 28 years and still unmarried. My mom is depressed but I keep on making her understand that we tried our level best and are still trying. But no one in this world is most sincere to us than Allah Swt. So when He thinks its best for us to get marries, ONLY then we will get married. There are many other things in life besides marriage. Higher studies, career, social work, family etc which can be make a girl's life occupied. I don't agree with girl who willingly keep on postponing their marriage because of their studies or career. If you have got a good proposal, you should marry as you can continue with career and studies. But if you aren'y able to get a good proposal despite all your attempts and efforts, it is NOT the end of the world. Pursue your career, get higher studies, be a good family member and you will only get married when you are meant to be.
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@Ashy2010 -thank u so much for such encouraging words.IA u me n M and all other girls awaiting a good proposal will get married soon By ALLAH'S Will,IA!:)
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I got married when I was 29 - I turned 30 shortly after the wedding. And I didn't think of myself as an "old bride" lol To be honest the most important thing is to find a good match and a good partner no matter what your age is when you find them. I think desis just make this marriage thing hard for desi women. I feel it's because desi aunties and uncles have nothing better to do than gossip and give others bad advice!
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"IS A 28 YEAR OLD GIRL AN OLD BRIDE?"
'Tis the age to doob marr in the chullu bhar paani.
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I got married when I was 29 - I turned 30 shortly after the wedding. And I didn't think of myself as an "old bride" lol To be honest the most important thing is to find a good match and a good partner no matter what your age is when you find them. I think desis just make this marriage thing hard for desi women. I feel it's because desi aunties and uncles have nothing better to do than gossip and give others bad advice!
thank u for sharing ure wedding details.thts so sweet n kind of ya!:)feel better!so did you use to dress up as a nayee naveli dulhan?n wear bangles n jewllery n heavy clothes!?:)
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thank u for sharing ure wedding details.thts so sweet n kind of ya!:)feel better!so did you use to dress up as a nayee naveli dulhan?n wear bangles n jewllery n heavy clothes!?:)
Strong girl... whats wrong in dressing up as nayee naveli dulhan, wearing bangles, jewellery and heavy clolthes? Do you think girls should not continue living beyond thirty?
No one knows your real age other than you, your family, your husband and your in-laws. Even if people know about your real age, do they stop you from dressing up as nayee naveli dulhan? Dressing up is a personal choice and no one should influence your likes and dislikes.
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hey ya fellas!sumthin ive been thinkin abt is tht nowadays it has bcum vry difficult fr the parents of girls to find a good suitable match for their daughters.in the entire process of rishtas cumin n goin n the wait for a good suitable decent proposal makes the gal age.i knw a frend who is nt yet married n close to her 30s n dis entire thing is makin her vry depressed sp the age issue.and moreoover wen such gals see gals younger getting married makes them even more upset.ive tried talkin to her many times n xplaining to her but da more i talk da more my poor frend gets upset.any advice 4 such gals?girls who are in the late twenties and nearing 30s,its not their fault neither is it their parents fault tht they r single yet.wht wud b a suitable advice for such gals passin thru such a terrible n difficult phase of life.
I say it's men's fault, too many jerks. Chances of finding a reasonable guy are too less these days, they don't bloody get off of COD and GTA to go out in the society and get some exposure.
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Strong girl... whats wrong in dressing up as nayee naveli dulhan, waring bangles, jewellery and heavy clolthes? Do you think girls should not continue living beyond thirties?
No one knows your real age other than you, your family, your husband and your in-laws. Even if people know about your real age, do they stop you from dressing up as nayee naveli dulhan? Dressing up is a personal choice and no one should influence your likes and dislikes.
yes Ashy ure right.actually just wanted to knw ure opinion coz i love dressing up n all and i dont why but i think beoz of my friend M even my mind is occupied with this "age" issue! as am also not yet married,nikkah has been done.:)thank u for ure kind words:)
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i feel age is strictly a mind set that has taken its toll due to the given circumstances in todays times.
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Strong girl - to answer your question yes I did dress up after the wedding as new a dulhan. Not a whole lot, as generally I don't like putting in a ton of effort to get ready unless going out. It's been 6 months to the wedding and even now my mom and husband love it whenever I dress up. We're holding off having kids for a year or two also as we want to get settled, travel and concentrate on work and work related studying before kids. I feel everyone should be ready to have kids when they do and the right time is different for everyone. Age is really a matter of the mind and you are as old or as young as you feel. I do live in Toronto - so it helps that I don't have all my relatives breathing down my throat about marriage and kids. But then my parents have never paid much attention to what others say for the most part.
I've never thought of myself as looking uglier as I age either. lol Plus, I'm generally very confident and assertive and that's one of the things my husband loves about me. And I have a better sense of style and more money to look after myself and do things for myself than I did when I was younger. Where I live women are generally waiting longer to get married and getting married later in life and are happy with the choices they make. Hopefully, things in Pakistan / India will change too.
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^There are seriously not a lot of women like yourself. I admire you!