I just stumbled on this issue in these threads. I neva gave it a second thought about discussing or to understand this vital aspect of our cultural bond, traditions and family values.
Bride & Grooms symbolizes new relations, new bondage, in fact every thing turns ‘new’ overnight even though the families might be closely related. Keep the Bride & Groom’s position in mind.
What is the general consensus to make this work and how does the effects of East & West environment can influence a foreign born desi Girl Or Boy for stepping into the unknown. Does this creats “Cultral Gaps” - Self inflicted, created or by nature. How can we repent our past mistakes and correct our future path..,
If both have a sound understanding of their religion then all the cultural/east/west stuff goes down the drain..
Islam is breaks all the superficial cultural differences..
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*Originally posted by MyStiCaL_MisS: *
If both have a sound understanding of their religion then all the cultural/east/west stuff goes down the drain..
Islam is breaks all the superficial cultural differences..
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Lets assume that human race is not very receptive and it always has been a struggle to converge onto a single dot. Islam is a Gem, but not every one's fortunate enough to have it.
Resolve in Cultral values and misfits can lead one to the greater scheme of Al-mighty as you mentioned. Not the other way around.
IMO this would also attract those who are not interested or little off track in their religion due to their own struggle for basic needs of their daily lives.
And this affects every Pakistani at home or abroad.
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*Originally posted by MyStiCaL_MisS: *
all the cultural/east/west stuff goes down the drain..
Islam is breaks all the superficial cultural differences..
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Easier said than done, IMO.
This East meets West concept some how doesn't make sense to me . Some one from the East could be as westernised as some one from the West and viceversa.I guess its more of a question of belonging to a relatively similar moral, social ,economic and educational backgrounds.But then again even if there is a difference , which often is ...a lot of love, patience and understanding and communication can solve it. And most of all being open to the concept of change... both partners will have to evolve and re-evolve, so baby shed the walls of ego and get ready for the great journey !!
The answer is not whether their upbringing is affected by living in the East or the West. The answer is whether they have being instilled with the concepts of understanding, compassion and growth. To live in the west does not mean automatically that you will be a dominating wife nor will it mean that the husband has no moral Islamic values. If you grew up in the east that does not mean the wife will be completely backwards or that the husband will treat a female poorly.
Rather it is the concept of adjustment. Can these two people get along because they are open-minded and understanding? That is the only issue. The location of the upbringing has no influence over the way individuals act.
Mothsmoke,,,your points are very valid and not a time waste.
In fact Sir Galahad views and your views revolve around each other,,,its the finishing touch to the template we need.
What can we do ?
How can we be fair in our dealings ?
Don't you think that the Boy-Girl should be of the equal views, regardless of the region they'r in ?
Could it be a little complex situation for Girls n Boys in Pakistan or abroad ?
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Easier said than done, IMO.
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Exactly!
Regardless of how religious or unreligious you may be, there will be differences in values and beliefs to an extent. I guess it's more about how tolerant and integrating you are.
Well religion is not a motivation to do the correct things in life.
A very religious family ( Khandaan ) could be the supressants of basic human rights of a 'Bride' from an out side family.
Lets stick to the basic 3 Q's in my last post,,,what you think ?
I guess this topic is less attractive for the same people who honoured me with their presence on my other thread Seeking Rishta thread.
Here's an oppourtunity to voice your concerns , interact, find your flaws, point out dark corners of our culture. Use it folks!!
