Breastfeeding in public

[Paheli00]

Re: Breastfeeding in public

@Pisiform

First of all, a mother is a person and a human being. You can’t put a mother and a car in the same boat. And yea there are pervs and rapist out there. Does that mean you should stop going outside, or don’t leave without burka and your husband because if you leave wearing tight clothes you would be expecting this and if you get assaulted it would be your fault because you forgot your burka? Thats radical BS. Or if a girl goes out to a club wearing a skirt and she gets assaulted it means that she was ‘asking for it’ or was at fault? Absolutely not. If you do blame the girl, then sorry thats absurd and I can’t even hold this conversation. If not, then its the same premise. Let me give you the car example, you said she should lock her car because if not then the car would get stolen. So you are basically blaming the person that it was because of her action that her car got stolen. I am saying even if she didn’t lock her car, the thief does not have any right to steal the car in the first place and must be prosecuted.

Ah no. My point was that since we know that there are perverts/creeps etc. in our society…because common sense tells us that people don’t always do what’s “right” or what they “should”…we take many steps to protect ourselves and do everything possible in our power to reduce the chances of becoming a victim. Women in Pakistan don’t usually cover up and generally make sure they don’t do out with a male family member…why is that?

Back when I was in grad school, around exam time I would stay at the library until midnight. If there was a group of girls left at that time and we were talking together…and by group I mean at least like 5 or more…we would walk together to the parking lot. If I was alone, I would ask the security guard to walk with me. Did I think I deserved being assaulted/raped by walking alone? No. Does that mean I shouldn’t do everything in power to keep myself safe? After all…just like the guy taking the picture…once I’ve been assaulted/raped…what’s the point in discussing whether I deserved it or not? The damage is done. Heck why do we tell women not to accept drinks from people they don’t know in bars and clubs? The list goes on and on.

Yea I’m not a parent either which is why I asked the question about pumping earlier. I’m simply sharing my thoughts from the other side…the side that could be sitting at a restaurant or sitting next to my father at an airport when all of a sudden I see someone’s boob pop out (nipple and all) to breastfeed (ok and maybe part of me loves playing the devil’s advocate too). :halo: