Breastfeeding in public

[kakee]

Re: Breastfeeding in public

@somegroovychick

You did not just compare nourishing your child with defecating! Seriously.

Pooing and peeing are acts that pollute the environment for everyone around you, not to mention it is pretty filthy and uncomfortable to wipe yourself and maintain good hygiene if that’s what you choose to do. This is why these acts will always remain private and what separates us from many third world countries where there is lack of awareness about this. Breastfeeding your baby pollutes nothing. If it is offensive to you because breasts are purely and only sexual objects for you, then look away, by all means, or walk away or request a different table. That doesn’t sound great, does it? “But why should I have to?” etc, well, why should a nursing mom have to?? She’s nourishing her child. You’re enjoying a peep show. Doesn’t take a lot to get judgey about right and wrong in that statement, does it?

As for that last comment of yours, I’m sorry, I truly am, but do you also blame rape victims for their assault? Because what you said right there is so ridiculous, I have no words. Why would I “risk hearing it”?? But it’s perfectly ok for a third party to make that comment?? You’ve effectively taken all blame off the perverted dude and placed it squarely on the mom. As one woman to another, I have to say, shame on you.

I do have a huge issue with the concept of hayaa. I have a daughter now and whilst I will absolutely teach her to dress modestly and be aware of how the public- good and bad- perceives her and teach her self respect for HERSELF etc etc… I will NEVER teach her to be embarrassed or ashamed of her body. That is what was put forth to me as hayaa and it can so easily translate into self esteem issues and I would not want her to ever go through that. I’m curious how hayaa was defined for you ladies in practice as you were growing up?

I absolutely love @somegroovychick’s words. I was raised without all this social stigma, but with modesty. Thanks to my mother I don’t really have these insecurities that many, many girls have about their body… from facial hair (I didn’t even know what threading was till recently) to just fat in general. So, basically since I was never raised to think like that I don’t know what it’s like to hate or be ashamed of your own body/looks.

@sgc I hope your daughter will be as great as you are when she’s your age… and giving poor confused people like me wedding advice haha.

sorry this was just me gushing over sgc