Suppose you went into a relationship where from day one you knew it’s not going to work out, but you go ahead for several reasons. You try to make it work but you’re miserbale and unable to put your heart and soul into it. So, you finally find the courage to say ‘no’ and break up before things solidify. Things didn’t end in the nicest possible way.
You’re fully aware that you should’ve been honest from day one and you had no right to hurt someone like that. All you can think is ‘at least you did the right thing and saved the person from a lifetime of misery and an unhappy relationship’.
Now you’re left with a lot of guilt and a teensy weensy feeling to be punished in a similar way so you may feel less guilty. How do you comfort such a person? what do you say to them to make them feel better becasue they seem to be stuck with that feeling and it’s affecting them badly?
p.s. apologising to that person is not an option due to the family drama involved. Some thoughtful input would be appreciated.
Could a mod please fix the spelling of ‘the’ in the thread title, I can’t find a way of doing it. Thank you
Comfort will come with time. There is no point telling her-him that she saved the other person from a lifetime of unhappiness- there is not martydom is breaking someones heart. That said, she DID save herself from a lifetime of unhappiness, which should be comfort enough. Time heals all wounds. The dumped will get over it and find someone else and so will she.
And she (or he) did make the right choice by leaving..
