Re: Breaking the cycle of recurring arguments
We live with his younger brother - his parents are in Pak but they come here every year for the Summer.
They are very set in their ways and always trying to enforce their ‘terikay’ on me. I try to accomodate them as I know change is necessary in a marriage, but they place a lot of pressure on me to live up to their expectations so I always find it hard when they come over. And they have a presence in our home even when they’re not here, as they ring 3-4 times a day minimum to find out what’s going on and will tell me what to cook that day etc, the actual fight we had this time is about his parents interfering and making decisions about our living situation - my husband made a decision based on what his father said without even consulting me. And he didn’t even tell me about it until I asked him what’s going on - and we ended up having a fight and he told me in the fight! 
I mean to say arguments are natural in any relationship - the way we deal with them is not that’s what I need help with. And yes we are very happy when we’re not arguing - we are very much in love and always surprising each other with small gifts, days out etc. It’s just the arguments are exhausting and too much.
Yes I did tell him and we’re both over the moon. We’re so happy right now that the argument has faded into the background. But as we haven’t resolved the issue I know it’s gonna come up again sometime in the future