how many of u have seen/heard that? ........ recently i heard engagemnet being called off coz of huq mehar ....... nikah was next month but its all cancelled now sadly ........ girls side asked way too much huq mehar ........ plus some plot thingy too as guy n his family has some zameenay back home ........ so they called it off ......
hm. May times
Not a good cook… yup.
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hm. May times
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plzz care to share … what happened n why happened? …
I’ve heard of a number of nikahs or engagements getting cancelled but I never knew enough about most of them to make any such assessment (that they were broken for stupid reasons or not).
I’ve only come across one broken engagement in my circle and the reason was a valid one.
Usually the reason is a valid one. “LoG kiya kahein ge” for log they may come up with any stupid reason(s).
Breaking Nikah and breaking engagement are two very different things. Engagements are done to get to know each other a bit before marrying complete strangers and if one family feels they cannot tolerate the other, it is ok to end the engagement. On the surface a dispute may seem petty but the conflict resolution process reveals a ton about the mentality of the other side. For example, there are certain families who can die and kill over money and when such a trait is discovered it is actually wise to call off an engagement.
But I have seen really cruel reasons to call off engagements. I knew this couple in college who were engaged and everyone knew about that as they were joined at the hip all the time. It continued for 4 years, then guy?s side found someone better and made some random excuse and broke the engagement. The girl and her family was totally humiliated. Moral of the story for girls is to keep engagement short and keep distance while engaged.
Just heard about a broken engagement where the guy’s side didn’t like that the girl wanted to make changes to the jewelry and the dresses they gave her.
Also heard quite a few over the last year ended during the guy and girl talk period. Most if not all of them were called off by the girls themselves. I think it’s for the best since it’s better to end it now rather than later when they’re married with kids.
Just remembered my poor cousin also had the worst luck last couple of years. He has a broken engagement because the girl didn’t like how he was barely on his Facebook and wanted him to let her control his account. Before he could respond her family broke it off because he was so rude for not saying yes immediately. That was random. Then he managed to get a divorce because the girl didn’t want to get married in the first place. Mega bad luck.
found someone better??? … in terms of??.. material stuff?.. paisa??.. physical appearance or what??? … n guy just ruined 4 years of relationship go just like that??? 
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The guy was not a horrible person per se but some people are social climbers, a term I learned here on GS only, at their core. The 4-year engagement was within relatives who were of similar social standing. The better girl belonged to a well-connected, rich family and was also prettier. As far as the engaged girl was concerned, the engagement not only wasted 4 years but more importantly all the guys who saw her interactions with her fianc?e would have a hard time getting over it so it ruined lots of prospects for her on top of that.
one of my cousins broke off her engagement with this guy she wasn’t vibing with because she did the “istihkhara” and saw a bad dream about him. Another cousin got dumped by a guys mother because she felt they weren’t “treated right” (didn’t get expensive gifts) on the engagement day lmaoo and she didn’t like the type of sweets they received, I know it sounds so dumb lmaoo.
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one of my cousins broke off her engagement with this guy she wasn’t vibing with because she did the “istihkhara” and saw a bad dream about him. Another cousin got dumped by a guys mother because she felt they weren’t “treated right” (didn’t get expensive gifts) on the engagement day lmaoo and she didn’t like the type of sweets they received, I know it sounds so dumb lmaoo.
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yeah istikhara is just an excuse to call off engagements :/…
recently i saw this girl changing her name … before nikah she was abc wwf …after nikah she became abc www …n after hardly 1 month she is back to abc wwf … i saw all the www’s n wwf’s were all over facebook before… liking each others posts…comments n what not … n now no wwf n www r in each others friend list either … dnt know what happened… still curious… must be a stupid reason otherwise no one goes for a separation right after 1 month of shadi 
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