Break it factors?

Lifestyle Relationships
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What are they for you?

And I mean to be asking in the sense of before marriage, with potential spouses.

I think we have one too many threads on ‘what to look for in a guy/girl’..this angle might be an easier take on that.

Feel free to share experiences for insight. Enlighten me :slight_smile:

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Not doing exactly what I want. Whenever I want. Where ever I want.

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  • Any kind of abuse
  • Cheating
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not giving respect to me

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Showing bad performance.

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Living with inlaws, infidelity or lack of respect (inc sexist, backward ideas).. anything else I could prob cope with..

Actually, with the first two I mentioned in some cases I might back down or reconsider, depending on the circumstances (but no way would I move into his parents house straight after marriage)..

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Lack of respect
Too loud
Overly religious
Doesn’t respect my parents
Big headed
Narrow minded
Expects me to be his slave i.e. cook and clean all the time. Sorry mate I aint nobody’s slave :phati:

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i love my ego soooooooo anything that hurts my ego.

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  • Infidelity
  • Smoking
  • Showing any type of disrespect towards his or my parents
  • Lack of basic etiquette/manners
  • Not being able to resolve conflicts in a mature/adult manner
  • Lack of ambition when it comes to his career

I'm sure there are others but this is all I can think of right now.

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If he turns out to be gay.

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Is it appropriate to ask for fertility tests to make or break a rishta??

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^ LOL. Dude, good one. I would think so :P haha..silly!

Disrespect seems to be a big one, and that is my number one break it factor. Disrespect towards anyone.

Serious? I understand if you mean that you wont move into his parents house in the sense that he is living off of them. But all I can say is I would NEVER marry or even go for a man that will leave his parents for me. big, Big, BIG, NO NO! Yeah, there are circumstance where the guy does have to leave, or isnt living with his parents, but if he is ready to leave just bc i dont want to 'live' with them..hmm..sorry, no can do.

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^Yeah, I am serious, if he couldn't or wouldn't move out of his childhood home when he marries I wouldn't think of him as a real adult.. If he wants to live close by (even just 2mins away) it wouldn't bother me one bit but I would not be willing to move right into his parent's house.

I don't see it as 'taking him away from his parents', just as growing up and becoming independent.. Also, I couldn't live without the feeling of my own space and privacy, always had that growing up and whilst I could give it up if I had to and there was no other choice it's not something I would choose to do.

I've seen first hand all the drama and politics that tend to go on when there are a lot of people living in the parents' home, MIL thinking DIL is spoiled, doesn't do enough housework, is too 'modern', SIL getting jealous, husband being reluctant to stand up for wife etc. No way would I live amongst all that craziness..

If his mum and dad need looking after or are lonely they'd more than welcome to come and live with us in our home.

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for me....

trust and respect are very imp factors resulting a break up!!!

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i would break up if:
1) he stops working
2) lives with his parents
3) cheats on me
4) tells me what to buy and what not to

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I’d like to mention another thing:
Someone who lives with his parents. I don’t so I don’t understand why he couldn’t.