I’m saying that that’s what lots of my cousins have been told by these salon ladies that have been in the business for a long time. These women made the brides feel backward and silly for not doing it. They acted as if it was the norm (and my sense is that because grooming is so much more affordable and available in Karachi than it is in the West and because there are more women of liesure it may well be the norm).
Now, I’m not one to be convinced to do anything just to please a man, but it is certainly acceptable to beautify and groom yourself in a way that is pleasing to you and your husband.
By the way, I don’t feel comfortable getting this done by other people. Nor do I approve of the way in which most societies are structured to make women feel ashamed of what is natural to them or to feel that they need to change themselves in order to be acceptable or beautiful. However, if someone else wants to do it, it’s her choice.
I think you should relax about this. You’re getting defensive when no one is attacking you, or your religion.
yes im getting defensive…i think that you girls misjudged me.just bcoz i know its haram doesnt mean that im consrvative and im against the grooming of girls..now im feeling bad that i shudnt have said tht in the first place.