im not conservative not backward but i think that women should not do EVERYTHING just to please themselves...men would never do this for women not even for themselves...n SAHAR02 i dont now wat are you trying to say...but one can judge the mentality of these girls who get it done for men...i mean you do it for men and you forget god...even your own self respect ...thats wat even most educated women dont have ''self respect'' n thts y we are behind in all wlks of life n then we blame men for it!!!
I'm saying that that's what lots of my cousins have been told by these salon ladies that have been in the business for a long time. These women made the brides feel backward and silly for not doing it. They acted as if it was the norm (and my sense is that because grooming is so much more affordable and available in Karachi than it is in the West and because there are more women of liesure it may well be the norm).
Now, I'm not one to be convinced to do anything just to please a man, but it is certainly acceptable to beautify and groom yourself in a way that is pleasing to you and your husband.
By the way, I don't feel comfortable getting this done by other people. Nor do I approve of the way in which most societies are structured to make women feel ashamed of what is natural to them or to feel that they need to change themselves in order to be acceptable or beautiful. However, if someone else wants to do it, it's her choice.
I think you should relax about this. You're getting defensive when no one is attacking you, or your religion.