so here’s the thing- my son is almost 6 months old mA but people are already joking around with him, as they do with a baby, and mentioning how cute he is and how all the girls better watch out, and oh look, there’s your girlfriend (his favourite picture book has a girl character in it). and i know as he gets older, if he comes home from pre-k and says he has a girlfriend, as sometimes toddlers do, it’ll be all awww’s and how cute’s. i just don’t find that ok.
i’d rather they didn’t assume he was going to be a ladies man when he grows up, and that it was ok for him to be that way, just like they wouldn’t say these things if he’d been a girl.
do any of you parents encounter that with your kids?
is it just idle talk to be ignored?
i’ve heard this with friend’s son’s too, its not just mine and these are desi folk who are making these comments.
Yes I got that a lot with my boys and still do from some aunties! But we always ignored it and never promoted that kind of talk in our home environment. Now that the boys are older, they do the same: they ignore it. So obviously they have learned this behaviour from us the parents! Which is why I firmly believe that your kids are what you teach them!
So just keep on ignoring it...