Re: Boy neglecting his fatherly duty
I just got in touch with an old friend who is white and found out that her daughter had a baby with a Pakistani guy. After finding out that the girl was pregnant, he dumped her because he said his family would disown him if they found out that he was dating a gori.
I am really annoyed because there is a family that doesnt know that they have granddaughter or niece.
My friend doesnt want to rock the boat or cause trouble because the boy might overreact and do something to her daughter.
What do you think? Should someone tell the parent of the boy that there is a baby belonging to their family? Isnt blood thicker than water even if that blood isnt pure Pakistani or born outside of wedlock?
In my opinion, that would be the right thing to do. Research shows that a child needs the involvement of both parents as this isconducive to their development. The guy is a coward. Too afraid to admit that he was dating a gori and too afraid too accept responsibility of a child that is his.
And then most likely he will probably get married to some "good" desi girl in the future and have children with her.......and to THESE CHILDREN, he will have no problems being a father to. BUT he won't be a father to the his illegitimate child. How sick, cowardly, and hypocritical. And to think that his future wife would have no idea of it.
Hmmmm, I think that his family should know about it. Just because one hides things now......doesn't mean those secrets can't resurface in the future. Can you imagine what would happen if one day.......years later down the road.....someone from his family finds out that he has a child out of wedlock. Can you imagine the hell that will break loose....and what if he has a wife and family of his own by that time????
If the woman fears for her daughter's life....the police can be involved. But I think the parents of the guy should know....because concealing this is wrong on so many levels. He needs to fulfill obligations toward that child which he had no qualms about bringing into this world.
I know a desi woman who has a son who had kids out of wedlock (I think) with a non-muslim girl. While she's not happy with what her son did....she hasn't disowned him and still visits him, talks to him, etc. Family needs to know. He needs to grow up, be a man, and fulfill his moral responsibilities.