How do YOU judge (opposite genders’) personality?
Is/was your criterion different for a friend vs. a lifelong companion? if yes, how so? And should this be the case?
Re: boy/girl judgement
Can I trust him or her. Only criteria to start off a friendship.
Re: boy/girl judgement
For me a friend is simply one I can go out with and have a nice evening/afternoon get-together with. Have interesting conversation. Etc.
Trust, sincerity, etc etc. All these values, I don't bother to require from friends. Friends come and go...you can't trust people who come and go with valuable information about yourself. Or maybe you just don't have valuable information, which is great. No need to worry about anything, then. :D
Re: boy/girl judgement
he’s gotta be a hottie 
Re: boy/girl judgement
i am not sexist i don’t judge people according to their gender.
anyone showing openmindness can be my friend…but anyoine showing hypocrisy and narowminded judgments are enemies to me.
but for my lifelong companion, the criterion were many, many, many more numerous:D
-age, life plans, social bacckground, education, family, ethnic backrground, moral values, and love:blush:
Re: boy/girl judgement
You have to be careful about friends because their company describe your personality and choice. Friends are like your representive and associates…they can help or hurt you in the time of need. For example if you are applying for job, your friend’s reference can make or break the issue. Similarly, if you are looking for boyfriend/ girlfriend or even rishta your friend can play an alpha role in make or break of it. So, choose your friends wisely. If they are not your type and you have to be in their company, then keep things formal as possible. For me a friend who is there in the time of need.
With regards to life partner, its all about chemistry for me, personally. I don’t care what she looks like. If she can go along with me…like be loyal, simple, understanding and don’t disturb me during sports, then everything to her. I got lots of Plans for her 
Re: boy/girl judgement
its different for different people.
Re: boy/girl judgement
I don't like to have many casual friends around me. I have many aquaintances but I don't consider them good friends. There are some people who are nice but deep down they don't have the qualities or trust, loyalty and sincerity. I think you have to be able to read people and know who to keep at a slight distance. Then there are other friends who stick with you even through tough times.
Criteria for my husband was first trust factor. Everything he said was candid, honest, to the point and humorous. He was very open and genuine. It mattered to me more what he thought than what a friend would think. I wondered more if he liked me more than what a friend thought of me. Our values, life goals, personalities, religion were all similar/compatible. For a friend, you accept their different values because it won't affect you as much as your spouses.
Re: boy/girl judgement
Stop Judging … Start accepting 
Anticipate … don’t Expect :chusni:
Re: boy/girl judgement
Even though that's true that only Allah should judge, he equipped us with a brain and the ability to discipher who may harm us and who to trust. I don't think there's anything wrong in sizing up a person's qualities especially if it's a life partner. It's basic logic that if your future spouse is contradicting themselves in your first meeting then you just don't feel you can trust them. We can't just ignore that intuition and leave it all up to Allah to make things better in the future. Because people don't change. I think that's one of the major problems of an arranged marriage. Women are expected to ignore their intuition and needs and just accept someone as they are. Ofcourse Allah is the ultimate judge, but every person should pick and choose wisely for their own happiness.
Re: boy/girl judgement
^^ I conquer: "People don't change"!
Also: thats why I say "Don't Expect, Anticipate!"
Re: boy/girl judgement
Its all about the Chemistry.