This drama has became the spotlight of mainstream media. Boxer’s wife Faryal Makhdoom rant on social media from her personal handle. Initially, this was fight between Nand (The gand) Maryiah Khan and Bhabhi (Khalai Makhloq) Faryal Makhdom, but now all mainstream news channels in Pakistan are reporting their family matter.
In-Laws: They want Faryal dress modestly. Faryal never mingle with them and thinks that they are pendu (raw).
Faryal: 9 month pregnant and in-laws want Boxer Khan to divorce her.
So, I personally check Maryah Khan profile and read few comment against Faryal Makhdoom, posted by maryah’s friend. It is clear that King Khan’s siblings have very uncomfortable relation with Bhabhi (Khalai Makhooq).
And I think media and people on social media should leave them alone and let them sort out their personal family issue. Thats between them, they can do wutever the way they like. What do we know about anyone to judge them!
Friend, the young lady reached out to the media to draw attention to the abuse in our culture. Even as per our faith the woman marries the man not the sister in law, mother in law and brother in law also. I have first hand seen that families turn against their own brother and son if he refuses to get controlled and agree to abuse his wife as per families desire. I say kudos to her for standing up to abuse and to try to shed light on this huge problem.
How sad that the dirty laundry is being aired so publicly. Their marriage was able to ride out Amir’s infidelities, but I wonder if it will survive this recent mud-slinging.
It could have been handled differently. For her to post that her husband has also been a victim of his parents’ bullying…even if it were true…he still may not have wanted it to be discussed openly. It could be an issue that he wanted to deal with privately. People have complex bonds with their parents and it’s something we tend to naturally be very sensitive about. I don’t condone abuse, but it’s still a cheap thing to bash your spouse’s parents on social media. It just exacerbated the situation.
I read that in retaliation to her in-laws’ comments regarding her refusal to wear a dupatta, she posted a nude photo of her brother-in-law at some party. I get that Amir’s parents are displaying double standards with expecting modesty in their bahu while their sons go about doing whatever. But if she did indeed post a nude photo of Amir’s brother, did she have permission to do so? It’s defamation, so is that not a form of abuse as well? Attempting to hit your daughter-in-law is paindu-jahilana behavior…but posting such pics to prove a point is not any better or superior. Sab aik doosre ko nanga kar rahay hain; now they all need a dupatta.
She did say that she wants to shed light on the societal issue of abuse and bullying from in-laws. I am privy to many such situations where bahhus are abused incessantly. When the son defends the bahu then they turn against the son also, love seems to be conditional with many, as long as you do what they ask you, they love you. Adults should be free to make their own decisions. In the law here compelling a wife to do anything against her will is considered an abuse. The parents say they should be recognized for the success of their son and I ask why is it only the sons parents should be recognized. Why not recognize the wife’s parents. Amirs conduct displays that he sides with his wife as he should.
BTW posting someones pictures are not a crime or defamation, you cant take pictures of people in bathrooms etc but in public they lose the right to that privacy. You don’t want naked pictures posted on the net, then don’t get naked in public.
The funny irony is that even the women who have no qualms prancing about scantily-clad or half-nekkid will lose their chit if someone posted photos or videos of them in their birthday suit on social media. At that point, nobody cares about the legalities cuz it’s a distastetful, ghattiya thing to do no matter who does it or whom it happens to…regardless of gender. Even those who don’t see it as a crime will be none too pleased if their own family members retaliated in this manner or if it happened to one of their loved ones. If you don’t see it as “defamation,” fine…but I don’t think that it brings about any izaafa in one’s izzat either. Also, her BIL appears to be unconscious in the pic. He made some poor choices but it’s possible that the pic was taken without his knowledge. It’s a disturbing thought that she even has a hold of the pic; how did she get it? With this whole “right” issue…where is the line drawn? Like with freedom of speech…some people really run with that…and turn their mouths into sewers with little regard for the rights or feelings of others. So you see indecency in public, it’s now your “right” to capture it on your cell and spread it to the 4 corners of the world, lol..cuz somehow that won’t reflect poorly on you at all. There are other, more decent ways to go about shedding light on abusive in-laws. Had she only limited it to a verbal exposure, that would have been more decent. Her in-laws felt no shame in attempting to hit her and she had no shame in exposing her BIL’s pic. Both sides have lost their inhibitions. They say when the curtain of modesty is removed, one loses all regard. It’s a stripping match now.
That’s showbiz for you. Some will air their dirty laundry, ala Kardashians and Khans…some will have wardrobe malfunctions to get attention…some will go through a gender change.
Showbiz is all about getting attention and viewers. We can choose who to watch and who not to.
Yeah right!!!guys can drink, do zinna , do all besharmi and that is all fine but a woman should have the duppatta on. I think she is doing a great service by exposing the hypocrisy…what do you think?
Or as the producers of the show would call it, great acting:)
I dont know of any desi parents who would go on TV and give interviews regarding the squabbles of their sons/daughters/inlaws personal lives, unless they had aspirations for publicity.
Err…why do you always misinterpret my posts? Since when did I condone the double standards of his parents or guys? His parents were wrong in trying to hit her. And her approach in exposing and confronting them was not commendable either. No, you can’t force someone to wear a dupatta. I doubt parents are 100% pleased with how both their sons violate rules of Islam, but just as they can’t force their own sons to do anything they can’t force their bahu. The problem is lack of compromise and middle-ground. While you can’t force someone to wear a dupatta…is it the end of the world? No, it’s not. Our parents are from a different generation and they have a fixed mentality. If it makes them that uneasy, then would it be a big deal to at least wear a dupatta when you’re visiting them? I don’t think so. When you go to a funeral, you don’t wear beach apparel. Even goray folk try to maintain sensitivity in dressing depending on the environment/situation. So, wear the dupatta when you’re around them if not at other times. Similarly his parents should make some compromises and let some things go. There’s supposed to be some flexibility in relationships. When neither party is gonna budge on things or let them go…this is the kind of mess you have. Now you may not like what I have to say and I don’t care…(you and I go a long way back and rarely do we see eye to eye ) …but ofsos ki baat hai k baypardagi is so precious to Faryal. Na Faryal ko apnay kapray utarnay main sharam aati hai…and na doosron ko nanga dikhanay main sharam aati hai. And neither do her in-laws have any sharam if they’re resorting to hitting and throwing things at her. I don’t have issues with female empowerment…but it’s sad that a woman’s empowerment in the world is associated with the shedding of her clothes, whereas for a man…it’s more about his abilities and things that have more substance. I’m all for supporting women, but I don’t care for blind championing where one can’t even see the mistakes made by the woman…even in her method/approach, etc.
She’s such a drama queen, airing her dirty laundry for the world to see. How does this help fix anything? Why not just get a different house to live in so they don’t have to interact with the parents on this daily basis? Kudos to Amir Khan for not being able to keep his parents nor wife in line. Or he just doesn’t care about the kinda publicity he gets as long as he’s getting some.
I do fault her parents in their hypocrisy as their own daughter doesn’t wear hijab even if she is more covered than Faryal.
I don’t know but Faryal comes out as one of those fake women like on the reality shows here in the US. Her make up has had me want to throw up many times but if Amir likes her then who are we to complain?
Hmm, this whole thing seems like a big fat set up to me, for attention and fame!
I mean it’s been a while since the khans have had any big news, this whole thing seems like it’s just done out of a cry for attention, from all of this they are marking money. TV channels pay to have an interview for this type of news.
With the whole honour killings and stuff this sort of gossip is serious news and will catch the eye of a BBC reporter or something and they will get lots of interview bookings.
She was on itv a while back about this issue, her in laws didn’t seems to stop her from attending that interview, hmm I wonder why.
I bet behind closed doors there all close as can be, this is all B.S for cheap fame and attention, she is making a mockery out of a serious issue, if it was so real then she would have reported it to the police and not cried all over social media like a low life.
The whole family is a disgrace. Sick of this stupid so called “news” people are dieing all over the world and we have stupid reporters talking about this made up kanjar khanna!!! Shame…
Considering Amir’s parents are pretty traditional (Amir’s siblings have married from back home in arranged match).. I really can’t see them going along with this for publicity.. They would not want the scandal imo..
Amir himself had been engaged to a girl back home before he met Faryal and that was an arrangement by his parents too..
Also Harry has been tweeting nasty things for at least a couple of years now, any sister/sister-in-law would be furious at that.. Considering Amir pays for his lifestyle because he doesn’t have a job you’d think he’d realise it might not be a good idea to keep provoking his wife.. I’d seen Mariyah ignoring and sometimes laughing along with comments poking fun at Faryal on her Instagram but it usually wasn’t as bad as what Harry was saying.. The comments making fun of her were never taken down.
RV, the pic Faryal released had his private parts censored.. She said it came from a girl he’d been sleeping with.. I’ve read some ppl on Instagram saying he was probably just sleeping like that in his own bedroom but obviously Faryal knows what his bedroom looks like and so does Amir so there would be no point in lying if that was the case..
I saw the ITV This Morning interview and she doesn’t come across very well (rambles a bit, blinks constantly) but have to admit having see the tweets and posts aimed at her and the fact that she never responded publicly up till now I’m inclined to believe it’s the inlaws who are probably in the wrong.. They had a bit of a nerve saying Amir agrees with them when he’s released a statement saying he actually thought his wife was right but was seemed furious it had all blown up in public..
Amir’s own words:
I don’t support what she did btw but I think she snapped..
When parents and siblings try to implement tribal and feudal way of living here things get dicey, there really is nothing like unconditional love and as long as they can control you and exploit you they are happy. They raise children to milk them and don’t much worry about their happiness.
) …but ofsos ki baat hai k baypardagi is so precious to Faryal. Na Faryal ko apnay kapray utarnay main sharam aati hai…and na doosron ko nanga dikhanay main sharam aati hai. And neither do her in-laws have any sharam if they’re resorting to hitting and throwing things at her. I don’t have issues with female empowerment…but it’s sad that a woman’s empowerment in the world is associated with the shedding of her clothes, whereas for a man…it’s more about his abilities and things that have more substance. I’m all for supporting women, but I don’t care for blind championing where one can’t even see the mistakes made by the woman…even in her method/approach, etc.