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Also, Bathsheba.......you've known your cousins all your life.....the bond b/w you n your cousins has had YEARS to develop and grow. Whereas...you know your husband for a comparative and considerably shorter amount of time........and distance can make things more challenging. When you guys interact together...start living together....the relationship hopefully will develop even more.
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I could almost see your hubby starting a thread titled 'immature wife' ...
'I love my wife but maybe because of the age difference, i find her not mature enough. She likes to party too much and does not take things very seriously. To her, life is still a playground. I dont want to come between her and her fun but maybe she needs to understand that married life comes with certain responsibilities and requires some seriousness ....and more'
lolzzzzzzzzzzzz .. .. so true ..
P.S: i like chatter-box girls... :p .. and i talk a lot :p
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i tend to be an extrovert too, i need to have loads of people around me, but i'm thinking he's just like that on the phone, once you live together he'll hopefully be a bit flexible just cuz he loves you :)....hopefully
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Usually, when two people get together after marriage...it takes time for each to understand the other's personalities. He isnt a boring person...you're actually acting immature.
The thing is, when you two start to live together...you will simmer down a bit and he will liven up a bit. But you have to show him what you like and how you are. You cannot just expect him to wake up one morning with rays of sunshine streaming from his ears. Thats only in the movies.
It just takes time to understand each other. I think since you havent lived together...its too soon for you to jump the gun and say you married the wrong guy. He sounds like a good guy, a decent catch and if you dont value that...Im sure he will feel it and become resentful.
So, be careful of how you display and handle this situation. Dont make him feel like he is disappointing you. You might be disappointing him as well. Im sure he has noticed the vast differences in your personalities and you dont want him to wish he had been more careful in choosing a life partner.
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hahaha - 'rays of sunshine streaming from his ears' nice one Reha :P
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a simple solution to your problem, introduce him to bondage when you two finally settle under one roof, the word 'boredom' will be the last thing on your tongue. :D
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have you considered having an extramarital affair?
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womens , cant live with them cant live without ,
when you talk they say he is not a good listener , when you shush and listen they call you boring 
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trust me, one day u will just be begging for him to shut the hell up just for a few minutes.
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I do buk buk only here on GS . In real life I am a man of few words. My phone calls to home or from home are very short and to the point. That does not necessarily make me a bore. I take my family out for picnics , vacations , movies. We eat out . We watch TV together . We go out to watch movies. We rent movies to watch at home. We visit people and invite them over. We have BBQs in our yard . We play games. Some times I cook something and engage the family in that . We go out for walks in the evenings although we do chit chat but we do not talk all along that walk.
bhaijan, you dont have to convince us that you are not boring :)
PS: you watch too much movies
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I think he's shying to open up with you so i say
tell him to talk or you will get NARAZ until he not talks confidently ...
its works with me :P
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Can understand what you are going through. Believe me, it really pains when you get a person like this. But since you said you have been married 4 months, so give him some time. Maybe when you both are together he may change. Dont jump the boat so soon. Stay with him, try to understand him. You know its always a woman who has to understand and compromise with everything.
Stay cool, enjoy your life and try to know his likes and dislikes.
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Whats new? wives always beat husbands in talking etc hands down. My wife also talks a lot and once she is one I take the cotton out of my ear 
You guys have not even started living together, while you are with ur cousins from ages. It takes time to new couple to understand and mold each other.
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have you considered having an extramarital affair?
Hahaha seriously i really think about it sometimes :o) lolll but i am not that kind of person :o(... yar thats not his only problem that he dont talk alot...he just is too cool minded he doesnt bother caring about anyything, like for example i really love my inlaws and want to make them happy and do nice things for them,,, but he doesnt care about my famly attt allllll...and that pisses me offff... like my mom came from pak a week ago and he hasnt even called her yet.. i mean excuse me u r a grown man ..u dont need to be reminded againa nd again the customs and rules of families...all my other cousins have called her to say HI and whatever how things were there blah blah blah. and i am just soo mad about it...now tell me how would you guys feel if someone is that ignorant..even i told him that he should call my mom and he said he will but its been a week now... sighhhhhhhhh
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^Remind him again. Most husbands are like that.... nothing to get mad about.
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it still upsets me like he dont have his common sense, i am not going to spoon feed him everythign what he should do... so upsetting..i guess i do too much for everyone so then i expect the same from them, but i guess i should have high expectations :o(
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Not everyone learns social etiquette and formalities from their moms, sometimes you do have to coach them (I wouldn't use the word spoonfeed).
I used to be a very carefree person as I was brought up that way, my husband coached me and told me how to deal with my in-laws, how to make them feel special, etc. etc. and now I also keep reminding him to talk to my parents as it has to be reciprocal, I don't find anything wrong with reminding each other about our responsibilities (ours was an arranged marriage too). It keeps both parties (of in-laws) happy and you get to communicate more too..... communication is the key here. Tell him your expectations, how else would he know what you expect and do insist on things you want done, like say " meri ammi say baat huee aap ki, woh mind na kar lein please call kar lein abhi" and make him call.
We have been married almost 6 years and we do still remind each other of such things, you have been married only 5 months.
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Men need to be reminded of everything for as long as you live.
Sometimes you will remind him to shower. This is nothing and very normal stuff.
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have you considered having an extramarital affair?
Hahaha seriously i really think about it sometimes :o) lolll but i am not that kind of person :o(... yar thats not his only problem that he dont talk alot...he just is too cool minded he doesnt bother caring about anyything, like for example i really love my inlaws and want to make them happy and do nice things for them,,, but he doesnt care about my famly attt allllll...and that pisses me offff... like my mom came from pak a week ago and he hasnt even called her yet.. i mean excuse me u r a grown man ..u dont need to be reminded againa nd again the customs and rules of families...all my other cousins have called her to say HI and whatever how things were there blah blah blah. and i am just soo mad about it...now tell me how would you guys feel if someone is that ignorant..even i told him that he should call my mom and he said he will but its been a week now... sighhhhhhhhh
It means he is dumb not a bore. You have lot of work at your hands when you two get together.
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Men need to be reminded of everything for as long as you live.
Sometimes you will remind him to shower. This is nothing and very normal stuff.
Guess you got a dumb one too. Get him admitted to a military school. He needs some training.