Inspired by another thread:
Is the “bond” between biological parents stronger or better than the bond between an adoptive parent and child?
Re: Bond between biological versus adoptive parents and children
For me - I would say my Aunty who brought me up aka mum - have a better bond. I feel it an insult to define her as Aunty- she stayed up on late nights when i was ill, she woke up early in the morning to get me ready for school and walked me there, she helped me in my homework, she used wipe my tears when I was being bullied and went to school to sort out issues, she taught me how to cook, she taught me Islam, she taught me to be a kind person, she taught me to stand up for my rights as a women. I owe her everything. She helped shape me into the stubborn cow I am today LOL.
On top of it shes my best friend even though sometimes we do not agree, I never hold it against her. She is my mother, no one can take that away from her. My biological mother on the other hand has been absent from my life, I have seen her about 6 times in my life, and she went through a period of sending me birthday cards for about 5 birthdays and then got my telephone number from my brother (who keeps in touch and lives with her) and rings to be nosey about dad and his family etc or just to be insultive in a compliment way. You know a compliment wrapped in a insult. How fun those are. I am grateful for her bringing me into this world, and I don't hold anything against her (such a lie... LOL) but I try my best to "deal with it" as best I can. Thats my two cents. Or in my case pounds worth.
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aww PO, I wanna give you a hug after reading that, so here ya go 
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^HEHE 
Re: Bond between biological versus adoptive parents and children
It would vary from person to person. 99.9% love of biological mothers (parents) is selfless BUT there are cases where some are really obnoxious with their kids and even kill their own kids. Same goes for adopted parents, most are nice and caring after all they adopted at their will however sometimes they are not able to give as much love to their child as they would to their biological child. So you can't really compare as it would depend on the particular relations you want to analyse on.
But i maintain that just because a mother didnt give birth to her child, it wouldnt mean she is deserving of less respect.
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I guess all the parents here wud know that a newborn baby knows parents voice and moms heart beat. Docs suggest fathers to keep the newborn babies head next to their heart so baby can get used to his heart beat. If they are crying you put em next to your heart and talk to them to calm babies down.
All this changes as baby grows up, Parents remember this special bond but babies forget as they grow up. Whatever parents do for kids is taken as granted as parents are suppose to take care of child.
Kids who grow up with non biological parents, in most cases they dont know from the beginning that they are adopted. As they grow up and realize parents who have been treating the baby like their own child rnt even baby's bio logical parents. Slowly they start to appreciate it more and more day by day. The smarter the baby gets the stronger the bond becomes from child side.
My point of view.
Its different from case to case.
I think In most cases biological parents do a great job which is not appreciated so much.
The Non biological parents also do great job and given that they have been so great to someone who isnt even their biological child; The get a lot of well deserved appreciation.
Re: Bond between biological versus adoptive parents and children
For me - I would say my Aunty who brought me up aka mum - have a better bond. I feel it an insult to define her as Aunty- she stayed up on late nights when i was ill, she woke up early in the morning to get me ready for school and walked me there, she helped me in my homework, she used wipe my tears when I was being bullied and went to school to sort out issues, she taught me how to cook, she taught me Islam, she taught me to be a kind person, she taught me to stand up for my rights as a women. I owe her everything. She helped shape me into the stubborn cow I am today LOL.
On top of it shes my best friend even though sometimes we do not agree, I never hold it against her. She is my mother, no one can take that away from her. My biological mother on the other hand has been absent from my life, I have seen her about 6 times in my life, and she went through a period of sending me birthday cards for about 5 birthdays and then got my telephone number from my brother (who keeps in touch and lives with her) and rings to be nosey about dad and his family etc or just to be insultive in a compliment way. You know a compliment wrapped in a insult. How fun those are. I am grateful for her bringing me into this world, and I don't hold anything against her (such a lie... LOL) but I try my best to "deal with it" as best I can. Thats my two cents. Or in my case pounds worth.
What about ur dad, Was he around ?
You dont have to answer this, Just say skip
Skip? Lol nah I live with my pops too, his sister bought me up. Anyway took me alot share what I did. So that's that! :p