I think it used to be a trend in families a few generations ago to send the kids to Boarding school as it would teach kids to live an independent life.
Recently the state of hostels and boarding school is of immense concern to many parents and they decide not to let their kids experience this aspect of schooling.
What do you think, is sending your kids to boarding school or letting them experience hostel life , of any value to the kids? What kind of an impact can it have on the kids and their life when they experience this?
i believe the kids must not be sent away in their tender age when they need the love and care and morte more importantly the guidance from their parents and grand parents. given the culture prevailing at hostels in these times, it's best to keep them home until they reach the age of 18. they need nurturing at home.
my two nieces and one nephew were pampered at home like babies until it was time for them to leave the nest and go to live on campus at a university. they all did extremely well...they did/are doing what they are supposed to do...that is, to study hard and stay away from bad things. they were mature enough at age 17/18 to lead a normal, healthy and wise life style.
kids must be taught at home as how to carry their heads on their shoulders at ALL times and never to let their guards down both academically and non academically!
Boarding school all the way!
My fam. has this tremendous tradition of sending boys to boarding school.Altough, luckily my fam. boarding school is only few mins drive away from fam. grand house.
Personally I have experienced both childhood boarding and then moving into a hostel for uni .. and though it has made me a really strong person I do feel I sort of got distanced from my immediate family and that gap has been really hard to fill ..
So like KFK said, perhaps sending them away in their childhood is not a good idea ..
but definitely let them experience hostel life in uni years .. that genuinely brings alot of change in personality , majority of it is positive change , may pick up some negative stuff along the way but then that's where one's family plays a role and ensuring that kids learn to keep the positive stuff learnt and let go of the negative habits ..
Some of the positive stuff I picked up : Leadership, decision making, influencing, team work, made some life long friends, learnt to deal with bullying and harsh people etc , ability to deal with ones emotions and fears in a stronger way.
Some of the negative stuff I picked up : routine all messed up , foul language
We can actually speed up the child rearing process ... It is possible to give kids the religious values, and sense of family values early if they given responsibilities while in the house and not treated like babies until 10 to 12 years old. Make them mentally fit by the age of 9 and then you can send to boarding school and if it is a good boarding school you will have a good result.
i wouldnt, not at a very young age and at 9 they are so young. my family is very close knit so i cant imagine sending kids away unless you have no other way to get a decent education even then i wouldnt feel at ease with it.
I don't think I'd be comfortable with the idea of sending my kids (or nephews/nieces) away to boarding schools. Yes, young kids need good education but the presence and involvement of their parents in their day to day life, I believe, is just as important.
This is the only thing I haven't done when it comes to the adventures side of my life. I so wanted to move away when I got into uni but I wasn't allowed. The reason was not having too many siblings. I think small families don't like this idea, they want kids to stay home and study at local uni. I still want to experience it , might move to an other city to complete my Masters degree.
I see moving away from the parents' house to pursue higher education (college/university) as an essential part of growing up & and becoming independent. One of my biggest regrets in life is that I was not allowed to go to the university of my choice because it happend to be thousands of miles away from home. Almost all of my friends moved away from home during thier university years and they have nothing but great things to say about their experiences... The freedom, the indepedence & the responsibilities that came with living alone impacted their lives/personalities in an immensely positive way.
It's not always just parent's preference, budgets come into play as well. I know several families where uni students stayed at home while attending Uni because cost of lodging and meals was quite high.
^ Very much agreed. For example,students in the UK have to pay £9,000 per year from now on which makes over all £27,000 for a 3 years degree. And if they apply for the maintenance loan and student accommodation loan which will be around £10,000 or more. End of the day, they would have to pay £40k or even more. A lot people are preferring to go at local universities.