Blood VS Non-Blood

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  1. According to you, Where lies the difference between the two?

  2. Do you think its possible to love your friends as much as you love your blood relationships i.e parents/siblings.

  3. In your personal space, do you feel more close to your blood relationships as oppose to your extended relatives/friends?.

  4. Is blood really thicker than water?

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yes, that's why your relatives have so many rights over you in Islam.

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That's a really tough one.... for me, the two have always been separate...that's just how it's been all my life...
I know people for whom friends are close enough to become like family and they are friends with their cousins...they're really lucky I think.

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Dont mix "being close" to being "bonded". Just because you can "share everything" with someone does not mean you are bonded with them. There is no bond like blood. and "apna marey ga tu saeey main tu daley ga" still holds true.

I had many friends in different times who were very close to me during that particular era (and knew quite a lot about me during those particular times) but now I dont even know where they are (neither do they) but I have many relatives who were never that close to me (i.e in spending time) but I still know exactly whats happening in their life and they know whats going in my life.

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Lets just say I’ve seen people who were family never being there for their relatives when their friends were :phati:

So for some cases it differs.

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1) value system
2) possible
3) don't know
4) not necessarily...varies from person to person

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Blood counts for a lot I totally love my close fammily, but much of my extended fammily and tribe are more likely to make my blood boil.

I have sworn many men as brothers, though we share no physical blood line… we have shared our blood together many times for a cause or struggle. Hence I have “brothers” and “Sisters” who are as loyal if not more so than my real siblings.

In Islam every Muslim is my Borther and Muslimah my sister… and likewise as a Human.

But sometimes brothers have to kill thier fellow brothers so whilst it is thicker than water all things can be diluted… :teary2:

Betrayal is another thing i fear and hence while i trust many… i depend on none.

Besides our people dont always let the oldest take the mantle… so sibling rivalry, and inter-fammily fueds are a constant problem.

Thank Allah I have put the last of my fammily’s bloody feuds to ground for now. But after me who knows… a life is a fragile thing.

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Well Said :slight_smile:

Intense :hoonh:

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It's difficult to compare friends to family members as they are two different relationships. Most people have a closer relationship with their immediate family members than with extended family. You grow up with these people, you live in close proximity with them under the same roof, you go through ups and downs together, and so there's greater tolerance for family than there is for friends. But there are also exceptions. Some people may have found greater sincerity and support with their friends than with family. The bond of blood is strong, but I don't think that it's always thicker than water. The word "blood" also includes relatives outside of your immediate family. And I know that I would prefer my friends (water) over some of my relatives (blood). When making a choice between the two, so many factors can come into play (positive or negative experiences, personality, etc).

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Blood over everything. I am reminded of that when I visit the ancestral village and do the fatiha over the graves of my grandparents.

Of course friends are important but unless they prove to me that they will stand by my side when the chips are down, I don't hold high expectations for them.

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^ Very noble way of putting it. I salute your wisdom. :salute:

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In the majority of cases, blood over non-blood. Think about it

-most of us avoid talking negatively about our family in front of non-blood
-usually the secrets people keep from their spouses happen to be about their own blood or stuff going on in their OWN family
-we are more forgiving of mistakes our blood relatives make over those made by friends etc.

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I'd never think of my own relatives more highly than my friends just because they are blood, just as I wouldn't judge other ppl as being better or more trustworthy down to the 'accident' of caste or ancestry.. I've seen enough examples of ppl not being treated well or even abused by family members to think they aren't necessarily always acting in ur best interests or that u can trust them more..

I love my friends just as much as my family (in some cases even more), some of them have done more than family and never expected anything in return. To me blood ties, tribes etc in themselves don't hold any value but then again I've not been brought up in a culture that emphasises all that..

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depends on the person really.

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A spouse may not be blood related but at times people trust them over other blood relatives...except off course parents in general.

Ask an old man or woman who that person would like to have on the side when sick or dying.

Even blood relatives may need to be categorized based on their 'closeness' and loyalty.

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your blood has no precedence over your friends or your friend's friend blood. in the eye of ALLAH SWT its our taqwa and iman that only matters. more than the love factor in our lives, "respect" should be the one that we should consider considering.

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Some of my blood relatives are very very close to me and some of my friends have done more for me than any of my relative could. It varies from person to person.

I used to believe that blood is thicker than water but now I don't if the said was true then there would not have been so many children being raised without their fathers (sometimes mothers too). Again it varies from person to person because if blood was thicker than water then how could people love adopted children like their own ?