There is a saying that blood is thicker than water, meaning that you will choose your relatives over your friends because blood is of course, blood.
I consider this pearl of wisdom obsolete, especially for people who have migrated to cities leaving their relatives behind in the village or who have migrated to another country etc. What really matters is how often you stay in touch with them. i.e. out of sight, out of mind.
So, blood is thicker than water as long as in sight. :halo: No?
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same goes for friends.. or anyone else for that matter..
your near and dear friends from the past may take a backseat to your brand new ones now cuz you see more of them here than the ones out of sight.
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I not sure I agree
In situations where people have migrated there is often the case (especially with very close relatives like sisters and brothers) where they are looked upon with rose tinted glasses and with an element orf the saying "distance makes the heart grow fonder...(or something like that)
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I was thinking the other day, for some odd reason, if I was orphaned as a child who would raise me? I had a Chacha and a Phupho in the same city I grew up in. But I know I would have been a burden to them. A stranger, a foster-parent would probably have done better. The fact that I was blood would make my relatives feel responsible for me but wouldn't guarantee love.
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It depends for me
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I think aside from your very immediate family, no rishteydaar is really going to stand by you, not for long and not without expectation of return anyway. Very close friends will.
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^^ very true, rishtadaars are only concerned with, ke agar poocha nahin to log kia kahain gay. So they stick with u, just for their own reputition sake. But however, there are exeptional cases. Sometimes, relatives do care about you.
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I think it depends. We have some relatives who we r very close to and some who we haven't seen/spoken to for yrs....and some of our friends r definately more closer to us and will be there for us any time, day or nite, more than our cousins wud be. And i don't think u can "choose" ur relative over ur friend, or vice versa. Each have their own place. Doesn't matter where a person is in the world, or if that person is ur blood or not. It's the bond between u that counts.
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Somethings look really good inside a think old book. But reality is your relatives would be the first one to harm you. When i say relatives [excluding immediate family. mom dad and siblings].
relatives se bach ke rehne ka....
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I am very much like that unfortunately 
Out of sight is indeed out of mind for me. I am Horrible at keeping up with old friends and every day relatives who don’t live close by. I always get flak from the relatives but it goes in one ear and out the other.