After reading Niksiks thread on desi birthdays, I remembered another thing, so instead of hijacking her thread, I have made this one.
So recently I have noticed among family friends and relatives, that kids bdays are sooo important for the parents and they sort of expect you to call them on the bday of their kiddo to wish etc etc. You cant just wait till you see them, you must make a call on the day. So I wanna know which relatives and friends do YOU expect to call you on your kiddos bday?
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Personally, I dont expect any relative to call me on my kids bday or even my own bday. Of course it is nice if they do it, but I dont have any expectations towards that. I think something of that has to do with the fact that birthdays have never been a hype in our family like that. I dont remember my uncles, mamoons or khala calling me on mine. Of course they wish you when they see you or if someone mentions it was your bday this or that day. On the other hand I do like to celebrate the day with family. Usually we order something to eat from outside or we go out to eat and it is all very nice. So for me the whole "oh usne humein phone nahin kiye"-thought is very alien. At the same time I think it is very weird, when parents expect you to remember their kids bday and call them, but never really return a call on your bday with the excuse "wo toh bacha hai na" .. Okay, I'm sure bacha doesnt even know it is hi bday and he could careless lol :p
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sweetmoi thanks for this thread...well i have around 20 kids in my in laws side....my fiance's family is very big...so yeah i was expected to call on everyone's birthday but then i miss some as i didnt know...then the complains start, how i called on x daughter's birthday but didnt call on z son's birthday, so i stop calling ..and plus i dont expect them calling me either
for my family, we also have kids but then its not so like oh she didnt call or he didnt call....infact we siblings sometimes forget each others birthday..
sometimes i dont even know its my neice or nephew birthday and forget to get them a gift or wish them but yeah no one complains.
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I've never found this to be the case. I actually get uncomfortable when relatives call on my birthday - -just cuz i feel they are fussing over me for no good reason. I appreciated the calls for my daughter, tho I did not expect them.
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On my daughter's birthday I did not expect anyone to call me but I got many many calls and my relatives residing in other cities sent her gifts etc. It felt nice !
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the only ppl i’d expect to remember my kid(s)’ birthdays will be my parents and his/her parents 
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No one. Why would someone call me for MY child. Just because my child is special to me doesn't mean he/she holds the same value for Aunts & Uncles or others as well.
Also its not like these people will keep on calling all her life so why expect something unrealistic like this. My mom was visiting me & hubby's birthday came (first once since we have been married) she started calling all my siblings to remind them to make sure they call him & wish him & I told her right there & then that there was no need for this. Because my siblings can call every year & then eventually they'll have their own families & most probably wont have the time & memory to remember these days.
Human nature is to remember when the goodness stops but not while it was happening every year. So no thank you. If someone calls & wishes my baby it'll be really sweet but if they don't that's completely fine.
My baby's first birthday is fast approaching. Her Khala is more excited then I am. Even if she wasn't I'll stay be fine :)