Re: Birth Stories
my birthing story
and boy was it not AT ALL what i had imagined!
so i had my appt on the 14th with my midwife where she would tell me bout induction and all taht jazz. .as i was 11 days over. the morning of the 14 th, 1.30 am my water broke. i was soo happy cuz in my head, that was a major thing that would signal oncoming labour and finally a baby.. i was getting restless with the waiting and being overdue.
oh my god.. i thought it would just be a trickle but this was like the dams had let go and i had a mini tsunami taking place :o
at 4 am we called the hospital and they said we should come in at 11 am. MISTAKE on their part.
at 11 we get to the hospital and i was only dilated 1.5 cm with irregular contractions. told me to come back at 6 pm.
it had been 17.30 hours since my water had broken.
we got back to the hospital at 6, got checked again and i hadnt dilated any further. midwife started to talk bout induction, but then thought she would wait another 2 hours. the contractions were verry bad but still irregular!! the baby's heart rate was going crazy so they put a monitor on me, and IN ME which was not fun! (wire attatched to baby's head with suction) now i was attatched to machines making walking around out of the question.. goin thru contractions lying down is WAY harder than walkin them out.. i wanted to walk them off.. but as the night would later show, my delivery was not in my hands!
2 hours later at 8 pm, i was induced as my contractions were still irregular and thus, wasnt dilating. by now, 19.30 hours had gone by since my water had broken.
i wanted a medicine free delivery, but with induction, the contractions would come on more powerful than normal, and so i got an epidural.. contraction came whilst it was being administerated but i stayed strong and put... instant paradise. i slept for the first time since my water had broken the prev morning..
tragedy of it all was.. it only lasted 2 hours. the contrations started to be felt and by 4 am, i was again in unbearable pain. the medicine they had given to induce me was strong. another sad thing was, i was only dilating 1cm and hour!!!!! i felt like slapping myself when the midwife told me that.. as if my body had let me down.. by 6 am, i was sure something was wrong with the epidural block they had put in me cuz i coudnt feel anything but my contractions. so the midwife called in the nurse.. and i was given another epidural block, FROM SCRATCH! pulled it all out and put it in again... this time the contractions were much stronger and i nearly fainted from the pain but agian.. tried to stay put... the nurse stayed for 30 mins waiting for the epdiural to work.. it kicked in but not as strong as it was the first time... he said it was odd, but it happens.. usually an epi should last 8 hours... giving women enuff energy to relax thru labour and only feel pain during delivery when they lower the dosage..
i think i cursed at myself when i was told this.. something like.. im gonna kill you if this doesnt kill you
this time, the epi only lasted an hour and at 7 am again, my contractions were making me want to just die.. i am not a shouter but the final hours of delivery and labour made me into a banshee.... although husband says i never threatned him .... sure his shirt got a lot of ruffness from me :D
by 8 am.. i was beggin the midwife for a c section.. but she just smiled and encouraged me...
FINALLY.. again at 8 am, i was fully dilated and ready to push.. AHA! upto now nothing was in my control.. so when i found out i was ready to push with each contraction.. i thought.. yes yes... finally something i CAN do..
sure ppl push twice and the baby pops out.. i had to push for an hour, until aariz came screaming out at 9 am..
i dont remember anything after that. i dont remember him being born, or being placed on me, or my husbands reaction.. nothing.. i do remember crying.. a very very tired cry hehe.. i
total labour from water breaking to birth was 32 hours.. out of which i would say, 24 hours were full of pain. i also threw up 3 times during labour.. making my husband want to cry as he was so helpess.. he did afterwards :D many times.. kept talking bout how he felt ta that point and the nadiya flowed :D
when aariz was born, i could hear his breathing was not normal.. but they didnt pay any attention to it.. we were moved to our own pvt room and would spend 2 days at the hospital before being released.. the night of his delivery, aariz developed a rapid pulse and bad breathing... he got rushed down to obeservation and i was told that he had been left in too long after the water breaking and that he had gotten an infection in the lungs.. 19.30 hours was WAY WAY WAY too long to leave a baby in after the waters breaking.. even my mom was saying that when we were home waiting for our first interview after my water breaking.... everywhere else they induce you within 5 hours especially if they see that the woman is not dilating .... to leave me hanging in there for nearly 20 hours.. was plain wrong.. they should ahve induced me MUCH MUCH sooner.
later on he got bacteria in his blood which docs then said was caused by an unsanitized instrument being used during delivery.. .meaning aarez and i would have to stay at the hospital for a week, whilst he got his daily shots of antibiotics..
i hated my new born getting strong medicines from the get go... he got gas.. and irriated stomach.. messed up bowel movement.. and feeding proved to be recipe for depression as he would just not feed... screw latching on! i went thru hell tryin to feed him.. the midwives were all so helpful and hte techniques they would use.. oh my god.. from drinking directly from a cup to syringing milk into the mouth whilst aarez sucked on a soother.. then tryin fake nipples... i wanted to just leave... had nervous breakdowns and depression was just sky high! i had always imagined breastfeeding to be so easy. hell my mumanis and phuplos and khalas made it look like it was natural to take on qualities of a cow naturally... how come it was so hard for me.. like a cow without teats! a bull!
finally, a day before planned, aarez' bloodwork came out clean and we were told we could go home.. it was brilliant news.. cuz the night before he had learned how to latch on and suck... this was paradise for me.. !
we are still getting used to each other and the love is growing im sure.. though he has a very angry stare sometimes and i do end up cursing at him :D but he is devleoping somewhat of a routine... sleeps for 4 hours and then gets up for 3 hours and then sleeps for 4 hours and then gets up for 3 hours.. etc ... i like it... and THEN there are days where he doesnt know ke neend kiss chirya ka naam hai.. thats where i eye the window and aariz with rapid glances
he shakes his head rapidly from side to side when he cant find the milk source.. hahaha... that is hillarious... stares so hard that he goes cross eyed :D
hmm... parenthood.. nothign can prepare u for that. heard it before, never understood it until now :)
so that is my birthing story.. very different from what i had imagined it to be.. but oh well.. done and over with it!
