How many woman here who have had children had their partners present at the birth of their child? If not, would you let them?
of course - let them see what they've done
they'll think twice next time when they're in the mood.
My friend recently went back to pakistan whilst pregnant with her second child. the first was born in england and her husband was there with her throughout. Unfortunately the trip became an extended visit due to a death in the family and she ended up having her baby in pakistan. Her husband had planed to be their for the birth as before but at the hospital he was told this was not acceptable and against Islam.
Is this true?
Nope the husband can be present...however that right there of the Pakistani Hospital not allowing him in is a clash of culture...and than simply justifying it with religion....
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thas what they both suspected but weren't entirely sure. And when my friend left the hospital her in laws gave her grief about even suggesting such a thing about having her husband there.
Haven't got any children myself so don't know how I would feel about having my partner there. I suppose when the time comes I will know.
Shahreen yeah the presence of their partners during delivery here in west is considered the most normal thing, where as in pakistan its not practiced, (I never heard of such a case, some minor cases might be in some private hospital although).
I guess the reason behind is that the doctors and nurses are all ladies and they would not feel comfortable of having a male around, its just not a common thing and I dont think it's against religion.
I don't know in which hospital ur frind gave birth in but if your friend gives another birth in pakistan check out the best private hospital, I bet it's possible.
My husband wanted to be present and I wanted him there. He was a great help to me and I'm really happy that he was the first one to hold our children. Obviously if he hadn't wanted to I wouldn't have forced him but it meant a lot to me that he was there.
You may be able to negotiate this in Pakistan by looking around for a doctor who is open to other ideas - especially if it is a private cliniuc and you put this as one of your conditions.
Islam doesnt prohibit nor discourage the presence of the husband when his wife is giving birth.
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Originally posted by aMiGo:
Islam doesnt prohibit nor discourage the presence of the husband when his wife is giving birth.
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thanks..we were waiting for confirmation from mulvi sahib...now ladies grab your husbands.
thanks for the information. I've never heard of any guy being there at a birth in pakistan either but it must've happened somewhere.
Has any guy here cut the cord when his child was born?
I have four children, and I did not want their father present when they were born, and he wasn't. I never wanted anymore people than had to be there, the doctor and the nurse.
I think it is a little yucky to have your husband see you in such a state. Just my feelings.
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I personally wouldnt want anyone present at that time. No docs, no nurses. Only my hubby if he wants to be there. Going it alone sounds good to me, although its not recommended.
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munni noooooooo you MUST have a professional present its very delect procedure that rquires attention from a person who is trained....for instance even in the small villages of pakistan they have a midwife present...even if you are in the hospital with doc and the whole gig its still a very intericate medical procedure....unless your hubby takes an EMT classes or those giving birth ones...starts with an M...anyhooo...can't be done alone way to risky....
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shahreen did the baby belong to the inlaws or the parents...what in the world were they giving her grief for....inlaws in pakistan are so controling why is that??
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When my family found out way back in the 1980’s that my father was present at my birth, they were in utter shock…most of them are open to the idea now, but no man in the family has the guts to be in the room while its happening…they dont bother with a religious excuse…they’re actual men – they admit they dont have the stomach for it.
Men sure as hell wanna be there when they’re “doin’it”, but not when it realllly counts eh?
Stuff t/ in-laws man, afterall they’re t/ ones who keep nagging t/ daughter-in-law to get pregnant in t/ first place kay “teen maheenay ho gae, aur abhii tak koi khushkhabrii nahii? Sab theek to hay naa?”
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Actually my frnd’s hubby in Karachi was present during t/ birth of her 1st baby @ t/ private clinic, but t/ 2nd time round t/ lady doc was a Jamaatii and refused to let him in @ t/ very same clinic.
P.S.: Both male and female dotors and nurses are present around t/ female patient before, during and after t/ baby is born @ major hospitals for their educational requirements xample @ Dow Medical/ Jinnah Medical and Agha Khan and PIMS in Islamabad etc. so this crap about no male should be present during birth is BS to say t/ least!
And yess! He better be there for me to see what hell he’s put me thru
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Better NOT chicken out on me dude!
I always wanted the same thing
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having just my husband present, or maybe call a mid-wife at home, just incase the hubby starts freaking out
In Netherlands, giving birth is preferred by the Midwives & Government at home. 90% children are born at home in Netherlands so its normal to have the husband in the same room becuase he has to help the mid-wife.
My wife & I didn't agree with this rule & we forced the mid-wife to ring the hospital.
I was certainly there with my wife when our daughter was born last year. I think there is nothing wrong husband being with wife. In several countries the husbands are allowed apart from PK & many other countries mainly in middle East.
If husband accompany his wife at the time of child birth is not against islam but can be againt culture & local traditions.
Funnnily enough, from what I hear these days home births are encouraged in the western world with a midwife present.
I remember a girl I used to work with opted for a home birth and had a water birth. Gave birth in her living room with her close family standing around watching filming the whole thing.