Big sin to see someone Naked?

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Salaam bro and sister

i raised this question long ago
my anuty mother is a very religious woman and she have read about ISlam alots and she give dars at people house she was saying to me its a very big sin tht
ur husband give his grandmma a shower its a very big sin for him to see his grandma privates so i just wanted to know tht is there any haidth or something in the Quran regarding seeing someone privates

She was saying only Allah have given the right for husband and wife to see each other without clothes and if a son gets 7 yrs its a big sin for the mother to give her son a shower

so can anyone plz send me a haidth or Quran verse regarding this

thanks

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Re: Big sin to see someone Naked?

I guess you husband is doing this because , you , that pious lady or any other lady are not willing to help him out.
But again he is not the only man on the face of earth that is why he has to do it. He can look for some social worker, or hire a lady nurse for giving bath to grandma. How difficult it is for him to find a woman to help him out with this chore ?

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i am willing to help my husband but first of all his grandma wont listen to me and she would just swear at me and we did hire some private social care takers and she would come like 10 am and when she would take her to bathroom my husband grandma wont listen and they would have just left without doing anything she only listen to m y husband and my MIL but my MIL is not ready to give her own mom a bath when she can

Do men really dislike angry women?
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Women from turkey come in shorts to drop off their kids for daers-ul-quran.
I wonder how women from pakistan let even their husbands see them?

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exactly how do they

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In such a situation that pious lady is passing judgment without knowing the whole situation , you or your husband should just ignore what she says. Allah is ghafoor ur raheem. Allah knows that your husband is not doing it for any selfish motives. Allah will reward him highly Inshallah.
But he should keep on trying to convince grandma to let some lady give her bath.
May Allah make this easy for you and your husband and reward both of you highly and give both of you a palace in jannat as a reward. Ameen.

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Re: Big sin to see someone Naked?

the onus falls on the female close relatives of the lady who are not doing their duty and left it on the guy to do it as a last resort.

I belive the lady is very old and thus her behaviour is understandable. You husband is doing is noble deed by taking care of his old grandmother.

btw, he is her mehram. That lady(aunty big sin) should have passed judgement on those women who are not doign their duty. Tell her the famous hadess e mubarika

Inamal aamaal o bin'neyat
Actions depend on intention

HE is helping the old lady who most probably is quite fragile and dependant.

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thanks for ur reply

But i have asked this question from many people who knows alots
about islam and they said yes its a big sin.... when my husband mom can clean
her own mom up than why does she ask her son to do it

and now i presonally dont feel conformtable for my husband to clean his grandma up ....

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Re: Big sin to see someone Naked?

His mom can do it but she is not. So what chioce does your husband have? Abandon his grand mother?

Either you talk to your MIL to recognise her responsibilities as a daughter or stop asking/listening to other people. The more you listen to others, the more your and your husband's life gets dificult as it already is.

Remember, Islam makes your life simple and there are conditions in islam when certain actions/things get permissible.

May Allah (swt) make it easy for both of you. Theres certainly a reward for both of you for your good deed. Keep it up!

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it need a little common sense rather than knowing aot about islam.

try to understand this example :

*an old couple who brought up , gave best education to their only child. when he grew up and got married and settled down in his life. He threw out his parents from his house and told them to go away. *

Now a distant relative saw this old man and his wife and took them to his home. where he took good care of them and they start living him happily.

Now, A person with lot of knowledge of Islam, and no common sense would tell you that it is HARAAAM for that women to live in the house of non-mehram relative and it is a **Big Sin **for that man who is keeping her in his house.

But A person with little knowledge of Islam and little common sense would tell you ‘it is indeed a noble deed of that guy who kept old couple in his house. Which was actually the duty of their son who committed big sin by throwing his aging parent out of his house’.

So it is you young lady, and the women of the house who might be earning gunnah for not doing thier duty and because of which your husband is forced to do it himself.
If you dont wana do it your self then hire an attendant. And STOP soliciting mis guided fatwas of big sin. :rolleyes:

it is better to use common sense and mix it with knowledge of islam to make better more tastey lemoanade of your life.

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Re: Big sin to see someone Naked?

@ code red...

This is indeed a good answer indeed.

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If you think that your husband is doing a big sin and you love him and want to save him from this big sin then instead of asking fatwa do something about it.
You have got many common sense answer here.
Those fatwas you are seeking to make your husband stop doing a noble deed are not going to save you on the day of judgment , your own good deeds will so please do whatever you can to remedy the situation where someone else helps your husband in this good deed. If I was in that situation I would exactly do the same thing as your husband and will keep on trying to get out of this quandary. He is not doing it to settle any kind of scores with you he is doing it because no women in the house can do it/willing to do it.

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YOU DON'T like it, have some back bone and tell hubby to STOP!!!!
YOU can't do that being little angle from heaven, then do it for him. All you will get is blessing.

Don't go borrow islam to stop some thing you don't like at personal level.

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its not a noble deed for my husband when my MIL can clean her own mother up but she refuses to which i think its a wrong thing to do and my husband is also not comformable to clean her up while his mom watch TV my husband told his mom to take her pakistan but she wont take her she is just making me and my husband gain bad deeds

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Re: Big sin to see someone Naked?

I am not sure if it is me or what but for some reason I feel like you are making it a huge issue when it is not one.

I remember when my nana abu was unable to take care of himself and was basically bedridden, one of my mamu and my khala were living with him. My khala used to wash him, clean him everyday till my mamu would get home from work. She always said that when I can clean and wash my sons then why not my father.

You might be gaining bad deeds by making it a huge issue and problem for your husband but your husband will certainly get lot of sawab for taking good care of his grandmother.

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oh and by the way his grandmother is not a non mehram and he is not doing all this for any wrong purpose so please get over this and be supportive to him.

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Thats called being a woman.

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No one is answering mahnoor question and everyone is telling who should be doing that ..

Simple rule of islam ... Haraam becomes halal if its a matter of life and death. If he leaves grandma alone. let her (sorry for the lack of better phrase) rot in her own filth, would that potentially be bad for her health ... answer is yes ..

MIL can be questioned and you can say that she is commiting a sin by not performing her duty ..

Mahnoor has no responsibilty of grandma .. if she does that , she will get sawab, if she does not, she will not get any gunaah

Hubby for sure is getting sawaab, for taking care of an elderly lady ...