Big deal or no?

[Mirch]

Re: Big deal or no?

@Contrarian

Come on man, she does say many truths in her posts. Her style may be a bit brash, but she is quite often spot on.

It is not like that , she comes across to me as just playing around , having fun kind of poster all the time. Except a few recent threads and posts , therefore I have been a bit choosy in reading her posts and threads. That is all.

[Mad_Hatter]

Re: Big deal or no?

I think the best example of deception has still gotta be this:

One of my friends at uni went back home with her family to get a wife for her brother, so they had to to girl’s houses to look at girls etc etc. There was one girl, kinda young, who they all liked the look of and that they said yes to.
On the actual engagement day they bought the girl out with the dupatta over her head, and basically wanted to get the nikkah done on the same day. My friend got a bit confused when looking at the girl, cos she just looked different, and basically just asked the family ‘Is this the same girl we saw? Cos she looks really different’

After a lot of BS-ing, it turned out they tried to parade the younger, prettier sister to get the rishta for the older, less prettier sister and thought they wouldn’t notice the difference until…well. God knows.

They didn’t get married in the end though

[Sehrysh]

Re: Big deal or no?

@Mad_Hatter

I think the best example of deception has still gotta be this:

One of my friends at uni went back home with her family to get a wife for her brother, so they had to to girl’s houses to look at girls etc etc. There was one girl, kinda young, who they all liked the look of and that they said yes to.
On the actual engagement day they bought the girl out with the dupatta over her head, and basically wanted to get the nikkah done on the same day. My friend got a bit confused when looking at the girl, cos she just looked different, and basically just asked the family ‘Is this the same girl we saw? Cos she looks really different’

After a lot of BS-ing, it turned out they tried to parade the younger, prettier sister to get the rishta for the older, less prettier sister and thought they wouldn’t notice the difference until…well. God knows.

They didn’t get married in the end though

That is wrong on so many levels!!!

[Contrarian]

Re: Big deal or no?

@Mad_Hatter

I think the best example of deception has still gotta be this:

One of my friends at uni went back home with her family to get a wife for her brother, so they had to to girl’s houses to look at girls etc etc. There was one girl, kinda young, who they all liked the look of and that they said yes to.
On the actual engagement day they bought the girl out with the dupatta over her head, and basically wanted to get the nikkah done on the same day. My friend got a bit confused when looking at the girl, cos she just looked different, and basically just asked the family ‘Is this the same girl we saw? Cos she looks really different’

After a lot of BS-ing, it turned out they tried to parade the younger, prettier sister to get the rishta for the older, less prettier sister and thought they wouldn’t notice the difference until…well. God knows.

They didn’t get married in the end though

Whoa! imagine the wonders it would’ve done to the older, less prettier sister’s self esteem!

[nuclearreceptor]

Re: Big deal or no?

I’ve heard of a similar case too, although some 40+ years ago. They paraded the ‘prettier’ girl and after the nikah when the guy saw the ‘dulhan’ he passed out (this guy was rather very very very good looking)- she was not a good match for him on many levels. He stuck around with her though, one of the most patient guys I’ve ever met !!!

[Mad_Hatter]

Re: Big deal or no?

@Contrarian

Whoa! imagine the wonders it would’ve done to the older, less prettier sister’s self esteem!

Well to be honest, they sounded a bit poor, so I doubt they cared about something like self-esteem. It’s actually not as rare as you’d think either!
I guess they just wanted to make sure the older girl was married off well

[Contrarian]

Re: Big deal or no?

@Mad_Hatter

Well to be honest, they sounded a bit poor, so I doubt they cared about something like self-esteem. It’s actually not as rare as you’d think either!
I guess they just wanted to make sure the older girl was married off well

Come on girl, being poor doesnt mean they dont care about about self-esteem. She probably didn’t voice it, but it would’ve certainly shattered her personality. Not necessarily the rejection, but the way she was being scooted away.

[Mad_Hatter]

Re: Big deal or no?

Hey man, in no way do I agree with it, I’m just saying it happens, sadly enough!

Of course she wouldn’t have been happy with it, but parent’s don’t care about stuff like that when it comes to the less-prettier/darker/etc etc kids. I’ve seen it enough times, parents can be pretty cruel themselves cos they freak out that their kids won’t get married cos Fair and Lovely didn’t work on em or something.

[Contrarian]

Re: Big deal or no?

@Mad_Hatter

Hey man, in no way do I agree with it, I’m just saying it happens, sadly enough!

Of course she wouldn’t have been happy with it, but parent’s don’t care about stuff like that when it comes to the less-prettier/darker/etc etc kids. I’ve seen it enough times, parents can be pretty cruel themselves cos they freak out that their kids won’t get married cos Fair and Lovely didn’t work on em or something.

Agreed…it all boils down to just getting married…the process, the rejections, the expectations dont matter. Just get the hell married off.